First: The woman's infidelity
Pain Level: Five Stars
Infidelity needs no explanation; it's the most painful thing for a man, and the inevitable outcome is divorce. If there are no children, it's easy—a clean break. But with children, things get complicated. Staying together is unbearable; cutting ties makes the children the victims.
A friend of mine once secretly got divorced, never mentioning it to anyone. His friends only found out a year later that he was single. The reason? His wife had cheated on him. During the divorce settlement, to show his magnanimity, the man left with nothing and even had to borrow money to make ends meet in the early days of the divorce.
I also heard about a very handsome man, once the prince charming in every girl's heart. His wife was very capable, and he earned a lot of money. But his wife earned even more, and gradually she started having an affair. One day, unable to bear continuing to cheat on him, she gave him 2 million yuan and divorced him. Can you believe how pathetic and miserable that handsome guy must have felt!
If a man were to encounter such a situation, how painful would it be for him?
Second: The Roar of the Lioness of Hedong
Pain Level: Four Stars
The once gentle and submissive wife suddenly transforms into a shrew after marriage. The man's feelings are unimaginable. To confront her directly is unmanly and will escalate family conflicts, potentially leading to an unmanageable situation! To compromise, however, shows weakness and vulnerability, leading to further demands and, in the long run, a henpecked husband. Although it may seem like a small matter, doing this every day will drive a man crazy.
There was a man who divorced his wife after seven years of her yelling at him. He said he simply couldn't stand being treated like a slave and scolded every day.
Third: Suspicious and jealous
Pain level: Four stars
This kind of thing is infuriating for men. Being subjected to baseless accusations and relentless interrogation day and night is unbearable.
A man divorced his wife after more than ten years of marriage. His wife constantly accused him of having an affair, interrogating him daily, stalking him, and demanding reports from him. Unable to endure the daily interrogation any longer, he divorced her. To prove he hadn't cheated, he has remained unmarried to this day.
Fourth: Economic dictatorship
Pain level: 3 stars
It's normal for a wife to manage the household finances and control the money. But if she's autocratic and acts like an economic dictator, life becomes difficult for the man. Imagine: he hands over all his earnings every month; he has to apply for and strictly approve any expenses. He only has a pittance for transportation in his pocket. More importantly, when a man is out and about, he needs money for everything. If his wife doesn't approve, or doesn't have time to approve, the man often finds himself in a very difficult situation.
There was once a man who forgot to apply for permission before leaving home. He didn't have enough money for the return trip and had to borrow from a friend. He was extremely embarrassed.
Is this the kind of life a human being can live?
Fifth: The battle between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law
Pain level: 3 stars
Have you ever experienced being caught in the middle, feeling like you're caught between a rock and a hard place? Every man should experience that feeling.
Think about it: one is your wife, who will accompany you through life; the other is your mother, who gave you life and raised you. These two women, vying for the same man, inevitably clash over issues like feeding and educating their baby, and differences in lifestyle. When women get angry, they become irrational, only interested in venting, and the man becomes their punching bag.
Sixth: Extravagance and waste
Pain level: Two stars
Most men don't have a lot of money, and their finances aren't exactly flush. If their wives are spoiled and extravagant from a young age, the men's lives become difficult. I know a man whose wife was a big spender. He earned 3,000 yuan a month, but she wouldn't buy clothes that cost less than 2,000 yuan each. Half a month's salary would be gone, leaving him struggling for the remaining half, always having to borrow money to make ends meet. Buying a house seemed a distant dream. When all the money was gone, she would complain that her husband was useless and couldn't earn enough. The man was furious and eventually divorced her.
Therefore, men should stay far away from girls who are extravagant and cannot be supported during the dating phase. A friend of mine met a beautiful woman while dating, but later resolutely broke up with her, saying that he couldn't support her and it was better to say goodbye early, otherwise there would be endless trouble.
Seventh: Vanity and worldliness
Pain Level: Level 1
This type of woman is extremely vain, obsessed with appearances, and constantly comparing herself to others—they compare what they eat, what they wear, what houses they own, and what cars they drive. A woman's vanity and worldliness can become a shackle on a man's head. Little C is such a woman. She's always comparing herself to others. Her husband finally managed to earn enough money to buy a small apartment, but she insisted on a 120-square-meter house and made him ask his parents for money.
The husband refused to touch his parents' retirement money. They had a huge fight, and the house wasn't bought. Later, house prices skyrocketed, and the money that could have bought a two-bedroom apartment could only buy a one-bedroom. The woman was furious and called the man useless. The man, enraged, divorced her. (After the divorce, the man's luck turned around; he got a promotion and made a lot of money. The woman regretted it terribly, and the man was very glad he got rid of such a woman. But that's another story.)
Such women often look down on their husbands' poor relatives, which puts the men in a very awkward position. They also tend to be intolerant of their husbands' parents. There was a female doctor who looked down on rural people, constantly scolding and insulting her in-laws who came from the countryside, and treating her rural relatives with disdain, leaving her husband miserable every day.
