What is a male best friend?
A close female friend is someone you can confide in about anything. The word "close" implies a secret or intimate connection; you can share many things with her that are difficult to talk about or that you're ashamed to discuss with others.
"Best friend" is generally a term exclusively for girls, but with the progress of society, more and more girls are applying this term to boys. What kind of boy can be considered a "best friend"? In my opinion, it's someone who can talk to girls about anything, is loyal, and is considered a "male confidant" by women. They can confide in them when they are wronged, talk to them when they have relationship troubles, and even seek their advice when preparing for a first date with a new boyfriend. They can also have each other's opposite-sex partners, and their partners know about their relationship but are never jealous.
A best friend is someone you discuss topics like sex and physiology with most. Therefore, "best friend" is generally a term exclusively for girls. However, with societal progress, more and more girls are applying this term to boys. A "male best friend" refers to a woman's closest male friend with whom she can share anything. There are also different interpretations—the media interprets "male best friend" as, frankly, an extramarital sexual partner.
Tell your male best friend: Why are you her backup option?
Do you feel like she trusts you a lot? Do you feel like you've found your purpose? Is it because she thinks of you when she's feeling down or lonely, and that makes you happy? Do you feel like there's a subtle rift in her relationship with her boyfriend, and that you might have a chance to become her boyfriend?
Sorry, you've taken the wrong approach! Perhaps I should congratulate you, because you do hold a place in her heart, but unfortunately, that place is misplaced! You thought you had a chance to be her boyfriend, but actually you've become her sister, closer than family! Would a normal person date their own family? Of course not! And yes, neither would she!
Admittedly, your role is crucial in this situation. At this moment, you're not just a backup plan; you've been elevated to... a tire repair tool! Yes, without you, the original tire might truly be unusable and require a new one. But now that you're here, thanks to you, she's vented her frustration, pain, and depression, calmed down, and can now continue her sweet moments with her boyfriend with a smile and a carefree attitude. The repaired tire may not be as good as a new one, but at least it's usable.
Of course, there are times when tire repair tools don't work. Usually, it's when the tire is so badly damaged that it's beyond repair, and even the repair tools are useless. In that case, a new tire is naturally installed, and you quickly get a new one, get it installed, and continue on your way. And you, of course, continue to watch from the sidelines—you ask why you're not the one in charge? How novel! Haven't you become the tire repair tool? Who would use a tire repair tool as a tire? You can't distinguish your role, but others do it very clearly!
You willingly and voluntarily hooked yourself onto the back of the car—yes, that's important. She never forced you; you were theoretically completely free, so she could ignore you with perfect justification!
Please remember that the vast majority of spare tires—I'm talking about the kind that are suspended on the car—have a spare life of only four years. After four years, they must be replaced even if they have never been used.
And those rare spare tires that are fortunate enough to be used usually only have one short-term use opportunity, after which they must be replaced with the regular tire. That's right, a spare tire can never become a regular tire.
Do you really think your fate as a backup option, as a human being, would be better than these rubber bands? Why are there so many people diligently fulfilling the various obligations of a boyfriend without expecting anything in return? Has society become so morally upright, or are you just deceiving yourself?
What makes a good male best friend?
I don't have romantic feelings for her. When a woman finds a male best friend, it's definitely not because she hopes to date or marry him. In her eyes, a best friend is simply a haven to confide in when she's hurt, a tool for amusement when she's bored, and another option to share happiness when she's happy.
If a man with wicked intentions takes advantage of so many opportunities to interact with a woman and does something he shouldn't, then I think that woman's original love will be completely shattered. Therefore, when women look for male best friends, they will definitely look for a "gentleman" who won't take advantage of their vulnerability, steal their love, or hurt them.
Having your own perspective on things is crucial. When a woman confides in her best friend, she undoubtedly hopes for guidance. However, if her best friend lacks unique insights and simply agrees with her point of view, offering only a few brief words in response, I think this woman will lose interest after a few words. Why? Because it's pointless; saying nothing makes no difference, so she'd rather save her breath. Therefore, a qualified best friend should possess unique thoughts and be able to speak eloquently, making the woman feel enlightened. Talking to a woman often yields answers similar to one's own thoughts, but talking to a man with unique perspectives will bring different answers.
Be her emotional dumping ground. Sometimes when women are upset, they want to find someone to vent to, like their husbands or boyfriends at home. They usually argue back or even hit the women. A good male best friend must endure the woman's occasional insults, be her "punching bag," and accept her gentle "hitting"—which is actually what she calls "acting cute."
They won't take advantage of your vulnerability, nor will you need to worry about your love being stolen away. Women find them gentle and reliable, understanding of both men and women, and willing to listen to women's troubles. However, this could be a misunderstanding. Because people's selfishness cannot be denied. Sometimes, men and women become close friends to alleviate loneliness, but deliberately blurring the lines between them is unrealistic, and it cannot be ruled out that some people use this to conceal their feelings for each other. The motives may be complex, not necessarily as simple as some people imagine.
Do you think pure friendship between men and women is possible? That's hard to say. But from the perspective of a male best friend, being a good best friend means not having romantic feelings for the woman. If you hope to become her boyfriend someday, then you're just a backup option, provided she sees it that way too. That's the difference between a best friend and a backup option.
