There's a saying that "a daughter is her father's lover from a past life," which is why many men cherish and pamper their daughters. Women are emotional; if a father has been good to his daughter since childhood, always there for her when she's bullied, and generally not particularly strict with her, it's only natural that a daughter would consider her father good. As for men who want to replace the father figure in a girl's heart, they need to cultivate themselves in these five aspects.
1. Sense of security
From a woman's perspective, a father provides a strong sense of security. He's her father for life; he won't leave easily, and he'll always be there for her in times of trouble. A boyfriend, on the other hand, might one day lack the willpower to stay with another woman. When a woman chatters incessantly, her father won't scold her; she'll feel it's a sign of family love. When his daughter throws a tantrum, he'll just smile and let it go, even comforting her, because in his eyes, his daughter will always be a child. Other men, however, will become impatient and even storm out when they hear a woman nagging.
2. Be good to her
Men often treat their daughters like princesses, fulfilling all their needs, because they feel everything they own belongs to you. Even boyfriends expect an equal exchange for their efforts; if you treat them badly, they'll repay you in kind. Because they don't receive care and attention from you, why should they treat you well? Actually, fathers also need reciprocation, but this reciprocation is the hope that you will be filial in the future.
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3. Long-lasting companionship
People need the most care when they are young, and their memories of others are strongest during this time. Your father is the person who accompanies you during this crucial period. Other men, even if they've been with you for years, can never develop the same deep bond as your father.
4. Know everything about her
Your father has been involved in your life since you were born, so he knows your habits and preferences best. He knows what words will make her happy and what words will make her upset. However, other men may not understand women as well, and given the shorter time spent together, conflicts often arise.
Why do women sometimes use their fathers as a "template" when choosing a boyfriend?
The reason women often consider their fathers the best men in the world is because they are the first men a woman meets and gets to know in her life. Their father's image subconsciously becomes the standard by which daughters choose boyfriends and husbands. French psychoanalyst Didier Rove believes this: "The mother's role is to provide her daughter with a sense of security from the very beginning of her life. At the same time, the mother is also someone who teaches her daughter how to interact with men. But the father is the daughter's ideal image of a man. In future relationships, the daughter will seek his gaze because the gaze from her father is the first male gaze she experiences. Whether the daughter's lover is exactly like her father or completely opposite, the father always serves as a benchmark."
Although fathers may seem to treat their daughters much better than boyfriends, a father is not your romantic partner. Therefore, women should abandon their idealized image of their fathers, find a man who is truly suitable for them, and live their own lives.
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