"I'm increasingly reluctant to sleep with him; every time, I feel terrible for days afterward!"
Mr. and Mrs. Lin got married in July 2019, and their relationship should have been in a very loving stage, but recently Ms. Lin has been worried.
It turns out that over the past six months, the couple, burning with passion, had done what newlyweds do. However, Mr. Lin had a bad habit of not showering beforehand. This caused Ms. Lin a lot of trouble. She complained to her best friend in private: "Every time afterward, my private parts start to itch, and I have to take medicine for several days. He just won't change no matter what I say, leaving me to bear all the trouble."
It's really not worth it for a newlywed couple to develop a rift in their relationship over this. In fact, as long as you avoid four major taboos, "getting intimate" can be a way to strengthen your relationship; don't let a small thing cause a big problem. So, what are the four major taboos when "getting intimate"?
Major taboo #1: Disrespecting the other party's wishes
The most important aspect of a harmonious sex life is to respect each other's wishes; that is, sex should occur on the premise that both parties consent.
Some couples tend to be unrestrained during their honeymoon, which can not only harm their health but also cause resentment in their partner. Ignoring their partner's wishes and thoughts not only prevents them from fully enjoying pleasure but also damages their relationship. Over time, this can lead to the passive partner developing resistance to intimacy and resulting in frigidity.
Therefore, to have a good sex life, it is essential to respect your partner's wishes and avoid forcing things on them.
Second major taboo: Failing to take safety precautions
If neither partner is ready to have a child, it is essential to use protection during sexual intercourse. Using protection can prevent unintended pregnancy, and miscarriage due to unintended pregnancy can be very harmful to a woman, potentially leading to gynecological problems or even infertility.
In addition, taking safety measures can also prevent the spread of some diseases.
Third major taboo: Neglecting hygiene
Both partners should ideally shower before engaging in sexual activity, paying particular attention to cleaning the genital area and anus. Inadequate hygiene in the genital area can easily introduce bacteria into both partners' bodies, harming their health. Furthermore, remember to wash afterwards; this is not only beneficial to both partners' health but also contributes to a harmonious and fulfilling sex life.
Fourth major taboo: Not avoiding menstruation
It is not advisable for women to have sexual intercourse during menstruation. This is because the cervix is open during menstruation, making it easy for bacteria to enter the reproductive organs and cause endometrial infection, leading to pelvic inflammatory disease or endometritis. Sexual intercourse during menstruation can also easily lead to excessive menstrual bleeding, prolonged periods, and other menstrual irregularities. Furthermore, it can induce antisperm antibodies, potentially causing immunological infertility.
Furthermore, having sex during menstruation can cause endometriosis due to uterine contractions, which can lead to infertility in severe cases. Therefore, sexual intercourse should be avoided during menstruation under all circumstances.
Beware of sexually transmitted diseases
Neglecting sexual hygiene can not only damage the relationship between partners but also lead to sexually transmitted diseases. There are at least fifty sexually transmitted diseases, the most common of which include:
1. AIDS
HIV can be transmitted through blood, sexual contact, and from mother to child. If safe sex is not practiced and one partner happens to have HIV, it is highly likely that the virus will be transmitted to that partner.
HIV invades the human immune system, destroying the body's ability to fight off external infections, ultimately leading to death from infection or other diseases. After infection, some patients experience symptoms such as headache, nausea, vomiting, diarrhea, muscle pain, and rashes. Even more frightening is that HIV has a long incubation period, making it difficult to detect, and it can also be transmitted from mother to child. Therefore, practicing safe sex is crucial.
2. Syphilis
Syphilis can also be transmitted sexually. The incubation period for syphilis is about three weeks, after which a chancre will appear. If one or more painless ulcers with a cartilaginous firmness are found on the genital area , be alert to the possibility of syphilis. As syphilis progresses, roseola-like syphilitic rashes will appear on the trunk and extremities.
3. Gonorrhea
Gonorrhea is caused by infection with Neisseria gonorrhoeae and is sexually transmitted, with a high incidence among people who frequently engage in sexual activity. Symptoms usually appear about ten days after infection. Male patients may experience genital bleeding, testicular pain, and painful urination; female patients may experience genital bleeding, menstrual irregularities, painful urination, and anal itching, which can lead to pelvic inflammatory disease, abdominal pain, and even ectopic pregnancy or infertility.
In summary, men and women must remember four major taboos during sexual activity and take safety precautions to avoid the three sexually transmitted diseases mentioned above.
References:
1. "10 Sexual Taboos Every Man and Woman Should Know, Never Do Them." Life Times. 2015-06-30
2. "Eight Taboos Couples Should Know About Sex." People's Daily Online. 2014-07-23
3. Sexually Transmitted Diseases [J]. Shanghai Medical Journal (Issue 18): 51-51.
