The mother-in-law/daughter-in-law relationship is a global challenge, but there are always solutions. As a smart woman, a qualified wife, and a responsible mother, how should you deal with your mother-in-law? Quickly learn these tricks to make your mother-in-law laugh.
First trick: Get your mother-in-law to call you "Mom"
Many new brides find it hard to call their mothers-in-law "Mom." It's not that they don't want to, but they're embarrassed. Put yourself in their shoes: when you become a mother-in-law and your daughter-in-law doesn't call you "Mom," how would you feel? So, since you're married, hurry up and start calling her that!
The second tip: Chat with your mother-in-law often.
A mother-in-law raised her children with great difficulty, so naturally she hopes her children and grandchildren can be by her side often. If her son can't be home frequently to fulfill his filial duties, as his wife, you can chat with her, listen to her stories from her youth, which can strengthen your relationship and help you understand her better. Of course, during these conversations, please don't say anything inappropriate!
Third tip: Try not to live with your mother-in-law.
There's a saying, "Distance makes the heart grow fonder." Everyone needs their own space. Since you're married, you shouldn't be dependent on your parents and should live separately as much as possible. This can avoid many conflicts and naturally reduce mother-in-law/daughter-in-law disputes. Of course, you should get the consent of your father-in-law and mother-in-law.
Fourth tip: Praise your in-laws and husband behind their backs
Praising someone to their face can be awkward and a bit insincere, but praising them behind their back has a different effect. When a mother-in-law hears others praising her daughter-in-law, it means her efforts have been acknowledged, giving her a sense of accomplishment. Such praise from the daughter-in-law is pleasing to both the parents-in-law and the husband, making him even happier.
Fifth tip: Don't tattle.
Complaining about your mother-in-law to your husband will only increase his worries and may even complicate the relationship. Instead of complaining, try communicating with her yourself. Learn to put yourself in her shoes, think more about your husband's perspective, and be more understanding of your mother-in-law. If you use your abilities and wisdom to resolve conflicts between you and your mother-in-law, your mother-in-law will respect you more, and your husband will trust and cherish you more.
Sixth tip: Don't order your husband around in front of your mother-in-law.
A son is flesh of his mother's flesh; everyone praises their own son. When the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is strained, the one who suffers the most is your husband, torn between his mother who gave him life and his wife with whom he shares a bed. If conflicts arise between you and your mother-in-law, you must be magnanimous, understanding, and tolerant towards your mother-in-law, and never take your anger out on your husband.
Seventh tip: Treat your mother-in-law like your own mother.
Show your love for your husband in front of your mother-in-law, and also let her know that you love her just as much as your husband does. When you buy things for your mother, be sure to buy something for your mother-in-law as well. Show her you care about her health regularly; this will make her happier.
Further Reading: These Tips for a Harmonious Relationship with Your Mother-in-Law
A New Perspective on Mother-in-Law and Daughter-in-Law: Maintain a 100-meter
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