First, he has advantages that suit you.
Some girls are extremely picky when choosing a man: looks are unappealing, voice is unpleasant, walking posture is awkward, picky eater is unacceptable, and poor manners are unacceptable… While these high standards might seem to encourage careful selection, they actually carry a greater risk, causing you to miss many potential opportunities. Many girls start using incredibly high standards from their 20s, and by 30, none of them meet their expectations. With such high standards, they'll inevitably never find a partner, so they start to panic, drastically lowering their standards and randomly choosing, ultimately ending up with the worst possible match.
On the other hand, even if someone does meet your high standards, is that kind of man necessarily right for you?
Choosing a man isn't about how many flaws he has, nor how many virtues he has; it's about finding a virtue that suits you. For example, you like romance, and he happens to be good at sweet talk; you value fidelity, and he happens to dislike going out; you like spending money, and he happens to be able to earn money for you… As long as one virtue meets your primary needs, then he's a good man. Other flaws, as long as they don't cross your bottom line, don't worry about them.
II. Looking to the future during a man's low point
As everyone knows, even with a monthly salary of 20,000 yuan, it's unlikely that a 25-year-old man can afford to buy a house in the city. We need to consider a man's financial situation from a developmental perspective.
Men typically experience a low point in their lives around age 28, when things aren't particularly smooth sailing in terms of career, life, and love. Of course, this refers to ordinary men; the children of the wealthy or powerful are excluded. Therefore, don't judge his future career based on his income or property holdings at age 28. If he earned 3,000 then, he might earn 30,000 in the future; if he earned 10,000 then, he might earn a million in the future… Focus on his sense of responsibility and whether he loves you. If he can support you now, things will get better later.
How can you tell if a man can overcome a slump? It's actually quite simple. You don't need to care how much he lost or how he lost; you only need to care about how he manages his time during his slump. If he dedicates all his time to learning or seeking new opportunities, he's bound to succeed. Conversely, if he spends all his time playing games or gambling, he's doomed.
Therefore, when a man is going through a low period, you should be most likely to choose a path that guarantees future success.
Third, a good man is good in the details.
Girls often have two kinds of ideas: one is to find the man's flaws in the details, and the other is to find a great advantage in him directly.
Our case studies reveal that the vast majority of men who grow old with their wives are actually quite ordinary. They inevitably have many flaws, but they don't necessarily possess any particularly outstanding strengths. Men are creatures who don't pay much attention to details, so observing the details of a man's behavior can reveal his shortcomings. But more importantly, it's in the details that one can discover a person's strengths.
