Are you a man's backup plan? Many women in relationships believe they are the happiest ones, unaware that they are merely being used as backups by men, making it extremely difficult to become their official partner.
When you ask your boyfriend to pick you up, he calls a car for you instead; when you want to have dinner with him, he makes excuses about being too busy to come; when you're interested in his friends, he never takes you to their gatherings; when you confess your feelings directly, he doesn't respond and changes the subject; when he's busy, you have no idea what he's busy with; when he's hot and cold towards you, disappearing without a trace and only contacting you when he needs something…
His attitude towards you proves that you are just his backup plan. If there are no new backup options, he will stay with you as a compromise; if a better girl comes along, he will immediately abandon you.
You might say that he often treated me to meals when we were dating before, and that he's just been in a bad mood lately. Actually, this only proves that he has some interest in you, but it's hard to say to what extent.
If you feel your relationship is bland and lacks excitement, it means he's not giving you what you expect. In that case, you should end the relationship and stop being a backup option. He's maintaining the relationship only to find a girlfriend who is more valuable than you.
Currently, no better alternative has emerged, so he'll temporarily stick with the old one—it's better than nothing! If he really can't find anyone else, he'll just have to make do with you as his backup plan. In short, in his eyes, you're just a backup plan that's not valuable enough, and there's no need to invest any more time or money in you.
To escape the role of a backup option, you need to increase your value and become a prestigious brand, so that men are willing to make sacrifices for you, not as a backup, but as a luxury item.
Therefore, if you don't want to be a backup option, first listen to what the man you love thinks of you, understand your shortcomings, and then improve yourself. Men know very well that the woman they choose reflects their own taste, so they hope that the woman has high value and is worth their investment.
I hope you improve yourself and never become a man's backup plan; make him your official partner as soon as possible.
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