Friction is inevitable in any marriage. Occasional arguments won't damage the relationship, but frequent and poorly handled arguments can be dangerous for the couple's relationship and family harmony. How should couples handle frequent arguments?
1. Avoid using harsh words.
When couples argue, no matter how angry they are, they should be careful not to say hurtful things. Arguments are already a sensitive time, and if they use harsh words, it can easily add fuel to the fire.
2. Self-criticism
When couples have disagreements, regardless of who is right or wrong, they should avoid making accusations, as this will only exacerbate the situation. Instead, they should engage in self-criticism, identify their own shortcomings, and this will help ease tensions.
3. Talk to someone
When couples argue, they can confide in a mutual friend. As the saying goes, "the onlooker sees more of the game than the player," and asking a friend for help in analyzing the situation and offering advice can help resolve the conflict.
4. Calm down first, then have a heart-to-heart talk.
It's difficult to resolve issues when both parties are angry. In such cases, both parties should calm down, sit down, and have an open and honest conversation. They should clearly explain their thoughts to each other. Once things are out in the open, the problem is easier to solve.
5. Let children act as a buffer.
If you already have children, it's even easier. When couples argue and neither wants to speak first, both saving face, they can let the children convey their concern for each other. For example, the mother can ask the child to tell the father where the washed shirts are; the father can ask the child to tell the mother where the new clothes are in the XX cabinet. This way, the cold war between the couple will end quickly.
