The 2015 BRIT Awards have just concluded, and Madonna, though nearing 60, remains as sexy as ever, effortlessly delivering high-energy performances and captivating dance moves. Even after tripping over her long cape, she casually tossed her hair and continued to exude charm! Smart women know how to make the most of their sex appeal. Don't say you can't be sexy just because you don't have a great figure or aren't conventionally beautiful. This website will teach you how to utilize your feminine assets!
Sexiness is every woman's asset. It's not a crude toy created by a slender figure and a stunning face; rather, it's a refined quality cultivated through a woman's appearance, personality, speech, communication skills, and interpersonal relationships. Of course, it also includes, very importantly, her sexual attraction to men. These six elements constitute the entirety of a woman's sex appeal. While physical appearance is innate and can be enhanced through hairstyle, clothing, and makeup, it's fundamentally unchangeable. Beauty is important to sex appeal, but it's not as crucial as some might imagine—at least not as indispensable.
For a woman, beauty is an asset. Innocence, cheerfulness, and sexiness all possess different qualities. Men find these appealing, and for women, sexiness becomes a resource. From the meeting room to the bedroom, this resource is versatile; how it's used is another matter. The true test of a woman's sexiness lies in how to use it effectively and skillfully without backfiring.
Sexiness shouldn't be interpreted narrowly, otherwise it's superficial; if you don't understand it, no matter how alluring you are, it's all for nothing. "Sexy capital" is a type of capital that can be invested in and yields high returns. A woman who possesses "sexy capital" has essentially achieved half the success. And when you learn how to use "sexy capital," you're practically invincible. As for how to use it, that requires wisdom.
Sexy Capital
Throughout history, heroes have been paired with beauties. The four great beauties of China—Xi Shi, Diao Chan, Wang Zhaojun, and Yang Yuhuan—were all associated with influential figures, either emperors or generals. These four beauties can be considered the women who most possessed and fully utilized their "sex appeal."
Take, for example, the Four Beauties of ancient China. They possessed stunningly beautiful faces, thus possessing at least the first element of "sex appeal"—exquisite features. Judging from the men surrounding them, they were undoubtedly successful.
How can a woman be sexy enough to make heroes fall at her feet? This is an art, and its content is naturally rich: beauty, sexual attraction, liveliness and cuteness, social skills, and the ability to sexually present oneself are certainly fundamental. But successful sexiness must be broad. It can be understood as the influence you exert on others by cultivating your image—a comprehensive strength radiating from within.
Sexiness isn't just about big breasts, beautiful legs, and a great butt, though these are certainly enhancements to a woman's sex appeal. There's a lot to it; a beautiful body completely exposed is just selling sex appeal, but revealing a little bit strategically is sexy. But more importantly, sexiness is about fully radiating feminine allure, such as gentleness, coquettishness, and so on. Of course, that's still not enough. Therefore, sexiness also includes how you present your sexiness.
Without a refined face, there's no foundation; any attempt to flaunt it will only result in a poor imitation. True sexiness requires adding sexual allure and skillful self-presentation to make men unable to leave her. The "sexy capital" in this context, of course, refers to sexiness itself. For women, sexiness is about fully radiating the allure of the female gender. That means being gentle and sweet, being coquettish and charming. However, this isn't enough. Showing a little is sexy, but complete nudity is just selling sex appeal. Therefore, the content of "sexy capital" also includes how you present your sexiness.
A beautiful face combined with sexual allure and self-presentation skills can make a man unable to leave her. Take Yang Guifei, for example. She was naturally beautiful; in the Tang Dynasty, plumpness was considered beautiful, and Yang Guifei's slightly plump figure, with fair skin and a full figure, possessed an undeniable sexual attraction, naturally captivating Emperor Xuanzong. She was also proficient in music, skilled in singing and dancing, and adept at playing the pipa, which further enhanced her charm. Thus, it's clear that Yang Guifei was able to remain favored by the emperor for so long because she had the resources and abilities; her sexual appeal was far greater than that of other women.
The purpose of using sex appeal is to obtain the life one desires. From this perspective, ancient beauties were somewhat lacking.
The most classic examples are former Queen Diana and current Princess Camilla. Everyone considers Diana to be the English Rose, stunningly beautiful. Undoubtedly, in terms of appearance, Diana far surpasses Camilla. And Camilla? Some media outlets have unkindly called her "old and ugly," and indeed, compared to Diana, that's true. While Camilla may have lost to Diana in terms of looks, she far surpasses Diana in the other five aspects of "sex appeal."
Camilla had a great figure, was skilled in matters of the heart, had a friendly personality, was good at communication, and most importantly, was very humorous, able to bring joy to those around her. In contrast, Diana suffered from anorexia, was introverted, and not good at expressing herself, lacking sufficient intellectual connection with the prince. Furthermore, Camilla was equally strong in terms of economic, educational, and interpersonal resources, which ultimately allowed her to win the prince's heart.
Actually, "sexiness" isn't about flashing red lights in that area, flaunting cleavage in the office, or striking alluring poses in social situations, and it's certainly not just about bedroom attractiveness. Sexiness requires a woman's overall strength. Don't say that a pretty face only makes you a pretty face; does that mean a pretty face shouldn't have intelligence?
When to unleash your sexiness?
1. When he is disappointed
When a man is caught in a dilemma, he needs encouragement from a woman to give him confidence. Therefore, at this time, your presence and your words can most quietly touch his heart.
2. When he is in an awkward situation
Even proud men sometimes feel isolated and helpless due to embarrassment. At such times, your gentle approach can have a significant effect, satisfying his pride while also making him secretly grateful to you.
3. When he was smug
When he's beaming with pride after achieving something, appropriately showing your admiration, or playfully pouring cold water on his enthusiasm, will make him look at you in a new light. But remember, don't try to win him over with harshness or coercion; the timing is crucial.
4. When he is "heartbroken"
Men who are heartbroken are most vulnerable, so the things that touch them are especially moving. At the same time, diverting their attention from their heartbreak and creating a sense of ease and accomplishment for them outside of their stress is the best way to touch their soft spot.
To win over the best man, a woman can't just passively wait. Besides using your sex appeal to attract him, you also need to learn unconventional winning strategies to cleverly subdue him. Don't be shy; women pursuing men is no longer a taboo. With "rent a girlfriend to take home for the New Year" ads plastered everywhere, if you see a man who makes your heart flutter, sisters, what are you waiting for? Gather your courage, make a bold move, and capture him easily!
Surprise attack to subdue his heart
Tip 1: Smile generously and show your humor
"What a beautiful day!" This opening line is almost equally effective when a woman tries to get closer to a man. A previous study found that if a man wants to showcase his intelligence and athleticism, he can say to a woman, "It's hot today, isn't it? This is perfect weather for marathon training."
Strategy Two: Think twice to prove you're not just playing around.
Bucknell University psychology professor Joel Wade says that directly or indirectly inviting men on a date sends a clear signal, rather than making them "decipher" some vague, nonverbal messages, and that making a direct offer can eliminate the uncertainty that arises during the relationship.
Wade suggests that if a woman wants a long-term, stable relationship, she should think twice before giving her phone number to a stranger, because the man might assume that she is only interested in having fun and has no intention of being serious about a relationship.
Strategy Three: Be straightforward and don't beat around the bush.
Researchers at Bucknell University in Pennsylvania have found that men prefer women who are direct, straightforward, and avoid pointless beating around the bush. Instead of going through the motions with hints and suggestive remarks, it's better to simply invite them to dinner or a movie. For men, clear, direct, and unambiguous statements are the most attractive.
Sexiness is a woman's natural asset, and using this asset to win over a suitable man is a woman's right and mission.
