In my country, a significant number of men have a virginity complex, even placing great importance on it in romantic relationships. Conversely, fewer women hold this complex, perhaps believing that men with sexual experience are more ideal partners. So, how much does a man's virginity complex affect a relationship? And how should one deal with a man's virginity complex?
Virginity complex is related to tradition
Speaking of virginity complex, I can't help but think of the upcoming drama "Ode to Joy 2," which premieres tomorrow. I heard that in episode 16 of "Ode to Joy 2," Qiu Yingying is discovered to be not a virgin during a party with her boyfriend, and is subsequently rejected by her conservative boyfriend, Ying Qin, and even humiliated by his mother. In her boyfriend's eyes, not being a virgin before marriage is a woman's biggest "stain."
Some women find the virginity complex incomprehensible, saying, "We don't demand that men be virgins, so why does he demand that women be virgins?" In fact, whether it's a warm-hearted man, a male god, or a chauvinist, men may all have a virginity complex; this complex has existed in men since ancient times.
It is said that in ancient times, people had the custom of placing a red dot on a girl's arm to mark her virginity. A single red dot meant the girl was a virgin; the absence of it meant she was not. On the second day after the wedding night, there was also a custom of hanging red decorations and setting off firecrackers. If blood was seen, the woman was considered a virgin; if not, the groom had the right to annul the engagement. A woman who was annulted would lose all face and often commit suicide.
A man's obsession with virginity is a manifestation of selfishness.
In ancient times, men could have multiple wives and concubines, while women were expected to remain faithful to one husband for life. Women's status was relatively low, but this is no longer the case. Since the reform and opening up, with the improvement of women's status, virginity seems less important and is no longer condemned by society. Cohabitation is not uncommon on campuses, and there are even cases of female college students engaging in prostitution or becoming mistresses. This sexual openness has also brought about a crisis of AIDS on campuses.
Even in this era of sexual openness, men's virginity complex hasn't completely disappeared. Men both want their girlfriends to be virgins so they can experience their purity and cleanliness, and they also want their girlfriends to be more open sexually and skilled in bed. Women, on the other hand, don't have as much of a virginity complex. From this perspective, men's virginity complex is actually selfish.
Putting aside the virginity complex, harmonious sex life is what matters.
Love deepens naturally, leading to sexual intimacy. A man who immediately abandons his girlfriend upon discovering she's not a virgin should be abandoned. Marriage is about love and affection; a man who marries a virgin without love is unlikely to be happy. Women with past romantic experiences and traumas understand better how to cherish the love they have.
That said, nearly 90% of men in China still care whether their girlfriends are virgins; traditional values are deeply ingrained and difficult to reverse in a short time. Therefore, for a better future and to protect their own health, women should maintain their chastity before marriage and avoid promiscuity to prevent regrets or contracting unwanted diseases.
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