First, betraying one's parents at all costs.
No matter what, parents always love their children. Whatever parents do, they always put their children first and do it all for their own good. In their daughter's romantic relationship with a man, parents will naturally get involved and protect their daughter. Whether they approve or disapprove, their stance will always be on their daughter's side.
Despite conflicts and entanglements, parents will never betray their daughters. I know many parents are unreasonable and stubbornly try to separate their daughters from their partners. However, this doesn't mean daughters can betray their parents. After betraying your parents, you'll soon regret it. But turning back is often too difficult.
Second, give up the job you like.
There are far too many women who give up their beloved jobs for men. In this regard, I want to say that women shouldn't be too confident. Unless you can guarantee that a man will love you as always. But that's something you can't guarantee. Even if the man himself guarantees it, until there's a real future, everything is uncertain, especially in relationships. Men need to work to support their families, and women also need to work to make a living. Women, always remember to leave yourselves a way out; don't wait until you need a way out to find you have nowhere to retreat. By then, it's too late.
Third, give up your hobbies
Everyone should have their own hobbies and interests. Hobbies and interests are not only the spice of life, but also its catalyst, and even its savior. For women, no matter how rich, handsome, or wonderful your husband is, you shouldn't easily give up your hobbies and interests. Temporary happiness can fill the void in your life, making you feel less empty. However, temporary happiness is always temporary. What can truly and lastingly dispel emptiness often comes from within yourself. And hobbies and interests are the most important factor. A woman who gives up her hobbies and interests is essentially giving up a part of her life. For a man, you might be willing to give them up, but it's too risky.
Fourth, withdraw from your circle of friends.
No one can live without friends; friends are a great treasure and a strong shield in life. For women, when hurt by a man, besides their parents, only friends can offer protection. Of course, these must be trustworthy friends. In many cases, women betray not only their parents but also their best friends for men, only to be left isolated and alone after the betrayal. This is a truly tragic situation. Men can give women everything, but they can also take everything away. Maintaining your own circle of friends allows you to enjoy solitude and reduces your dependence on him.
Men aren't everything, they're not your whole life, so just let things be.
1. Regardless of where the man goes
Men have their own careers, work-related social obligations, and friendships, plus their own hobbies and desire for personal space; they should be allowed freedom. However, it's also important to remind him to let the family know he's home safely each time he comes home late, to avoid unnecessary worry and suspicion.
2. Regardless of a man's wallet
A man who has the ability to earn money has the right to spend it as he pleases. A man with enough money in his wallet has dignity, and you should know how to save face for him. As long as he provides you with enough money to spend, don't have too many complaints. Of course, if he's willing to let you be the financial manager, you should know how to manage the household finances and handle all financial risks, so you don't find yourself short of money when you urgently need it.
3. Regardless of the man's information
Cell phones and QQ are the main culprits behind marital conflicts. Everyone has their own privacy. His reluctance to tell you so-called secrets is simply to avoid your overthinking, misunderstandings, and unhappiness—it's a white lie, after all! Actually, many misunderstandings stem from women's excessive sensitivity. Normal interactions are perceived as being spied on, making him feel very awkward. A responsible man should be trusted; he will prioritize his family just like a woman. Occasional emotional infidelity is normal for men. Even with a close female friend, don't be overly jealous. That only proves his excellence and charm, and that your initial judgment was correct. Women need to be more positive, confident, and happy to attract men's hearts. No man likes coming home after a long day only to have to deal with his wife's bad temper.
So, how should women take care of themselves?
1. Control your mouth.
Never speak ill of a man's family in front of him. Every man values his family more than his wife. You can choose your wife, but you can't choose your parents. This is the truth! Even if the elderly are wrong, you should still respect them. You should extend that respect to your in-laws as you would your own parents.
2. Control your desire to spend money.
Especially for housewives who don't have their own careers, don't become shopaholics.
3. Don't be a spendthrift.
Spend more if you have more money, spend less if you have less, and only spend money on things that are necessary for exams. Life requires planning, and risks need management. Force yourself to save a little each month for emergencies. Learn to transfer risk. If you squander all your earnings, you'll find yourself utterly helpless when you need a large sum of money in an emergency!
4. Be a shrewd finance minister
Many women don't have control over the finances; it's okay if the money isn't in their hands, as long as they have enough to spend. However, they must encourage their men to buy sufficient insurance (protection + investment) for the family. This ensures that even if the man isn't willing to give them money for his own expenses, there will still be funds available. Many women don't understand the benefits of insurance. Let me tell you a secret: If men were reliable, pigs would fly. Even if a man's heart is reliable, his health isn't necessarily so. Accidents and illnesses can happen anywhere.
What if he's unable to earn money to support the family? Are you prepared for the worst? Will your savings be enough for ten years? Smart women should think this through carefully! Don't just feel bad about the money you've deposited in insurance, worrying that you'll never see it again and it will all be wasted. Remember, a protection account is about exchanging small amounts for larger sums, minimizing your own expenses. A financial account is about saving for the future, ensuring you'll never lack money. An education account is about guaranteeing your children have enough money to complete their education. In reality, money deposited in insurance is the only way to truly provide support in times of need or enhance your future! It's the only way to ensure your money isn't easily scammed, stolen, borrowed, or exploited, and it's less susceptible to natural, business, and political risks—it's the safest form of capital.
5. Learn to play dumb.
A woman who's a little oblivious is often happy. Women shouldn't be too assertive; give men more face in public. Learn to turn a blind eye sometimes, and let men make decisions about some things, especially matters within their own families. Happiness is in your own hands; don't expect it to be given to you. Don't measure happiness by money; rich people aren't necessarily happy. Remember that sometimes taking a loss is a blessing; don't always try to be the one in control.
6. Have a sense of crisis
Don't always give your man the cold shoulder; if you do, he won't want to come home anymore. Home is a warm harbor; make it a place your man feels comfortable and at ease. Take care of yourself; don't become a haggard, unattractive woman you can't show off in public. Don't just play games, mahjong, and hang out with friends aimlessly. Be a good parent; don't be unable to even tutor a primary school student.
7. Cherish your youth
A woman's youth is fleeting; don't squander it. If you don't progress, learn, work, or cultivate your inner self, the talented and beautiful women around him will become a threat. Don't remain stagnant, content with being supported. Continuous learning enriches you; inner beauty is true beauty.
8. Women should have their own careers.
How much money I make isn't important; what matters is not having to face four walls every day, becoming disconnected from society, having nowhere to confide my troubles, and finding fault with everyone at home. My body gradually becomes obese, and my physical condition declines. Because I speak less, socialize less, and use my brain less at home, my memory gets worse and worse.
9. Learn to cook home-style dishes.
I don't expect to become a master chef, but at least I should be able to cater to my family's tastes.
Finally, let's look at some intimate love messages for women.
1. Women should live for themselves. Regardless of whether life is wonderful or not, they should not lose themselves in love. A woman who doesn't even love herself has no right to love others.
2. Marriage is not a game of cards; reshuffling always comes at a price, especially for women. Leaving a painful marriage isn't necessarily a relief. Often, ending a marriage brings another form of hurt.
3. Some emotional wounds don't need repair, and are impossible to repair. Rather than letting the wound fester into a lifetime of pain, it's better to add another cut to the wound, sever all ties completely, and stop the entanglement.
4. In the world of marriage, honesty isn't wrong; the mistake lies in believing that honesty can save your conscience while ignoring the harm it causes your partner. Sometimes, expressing loyalty and care in love doesn't require revealing everything. In married life, appropriate concealment is sometimes the best protection for the marriage.
5. Giving the other person a chance to make amends is also giving yourself a way to find happiness. Treating other people's love and marriage with kindness is the best way to respect and protect yourself.
6. What belongs to God will be given to God, what belongs to Rome will be given to Rome, and what belongs to another will be given to another. Don't try to take what belongs to someone else. Otherwise, the more effort you put in, the less you will get.
7. In the world of emotions, women are easily hurt, not because they encounter heartless men or unfaithful men; but because when a relationship ends, women are unwilling to face themselves and make a rational and sober decision.
8. Life is a gamble; it requires luck, strategy, and, most importantly, a positive mindset. Many people fail in love or marriage not because of luck or strategy, but because of a lack of a good mindset to maintain the relationship or marriage.
9. Never burn yourself out for love; never gamble everything on love. Even with a man you adore, a woman should ideally love him seven parts and keep three parts reserved. That way, even if the love fades later, she'll still have a way out.
10. Don't easily say the words "break up." If it's not a matter of principle, but merely a trivial matter like differing habits, or someone forgetting someone else's birthday, please don't easily utter those two words. Human nature is to strive for perfection to some extent, and this is especially true in relationships. If you easily let those two words create a rift in your relationship, then it will be endlessly brought up again, causing further hurt and reopening old wounds.
