A woman's relentless pursuit is the least effective tactic and will likely scare away her crush. Instead, use a little strategy to attract his attention, win his heart, and eventually get him to take concrete steps to pursue you. Take the plunge and capture his heart; sweet love is just around the corner!
Friends' resources should not be wasted
If you have mutual friends, that's best. But even if you don't, it's okay. You can ask someone close to him to help you find out about his current relationship status, saving you from making mistakes. If your best friend is someone close to him, you might as well bribe her to put in a good word for you. In short, these easily overlooked resources around you can be a great help to you in the long run.
Be brave and hint at it to him.
If you already know each other, you have a greater advantage and a better excuse to approach him. During conversations, you can subtly hint that you admire him and might even see him as a role model for a boyfriend. When a man sees a woman so devoted to him, he'll inevitably feel a little proud and enjoy being with you more, because he'll feel incredibly masculine around you. All of this depends on making your hints obvious, but you must also be careful to maintain a proper balance.
Women's capital is the most crucial
Women look for partners based on character and ability, and men don't just grab anyone either. In today's high-pressure society, nobody wants a woman who's waited on hand and foot and does nothing at home. So don't forget to improve yourself and show him your assets, letting him see that life with you is full of hope. Remember, independent women are most likely to please men, and also please themselves.
Give the hero a chance to save the damsel in distress.
Men love to be heroes. Give him a chance to help you, and his heroic spirit will fill him the moment you ask for his help. From small tasks like moving things to emergency loans, as long as he feels needed by you, he'll feel proud. But never offer unsolicited advice or give orders; this will stifle his masculinity and make him resentful. Remember to be grateful. No matter how small the favor he does, admire and praise him, treat him like a hero. This will make him more likely to cherish you.
Motherly radiance warmed him
Even heroes get tired, and men have their struggles. Don't burden them with too much pressure. Men crave love and care, like a mother would. Deep down, they all appreciate women they can be affectionate and playful with. When a man is down, he needs your maternal protection. Even in a close friendship, if you want to maintain a romantic connection or take things further, never mock him during his difficult times. At these times, he needs your affirmation, your warmth to relax, and to rebuild his confidence.
Cherish every opportunity to spend time together
You're not his roommate, nor his sibling, so you spend very little time together. Even though you genuinely like him, don't let that make you so nervous that you become incoherent on every date. Try to plan your conversation topics in advance to avoid awkward silences. Most importantly, let him know that you are important to him during every time you spend together.
Love also needs a source.
As long as there is love, there will be bread. When two people are in love, even a mundane life is fine. They don't crave delicacies every day, nor do they yearn for luxurious villas; they only hope to give their best love to each other and to have their best selves discovered. This will move a man, and he will work even harder to build a beautiful life with you, until the end of time.
Her sweet, affectionate behavior made his love overflow.
No man dislikes a woman's coquettishness, but making a man feel comfortable and charming is an art. A woman's gentle charm can make his love overflow!
There's an art to being charming—being unreasonable sometimes.
Don't avoid arguing with him. It's okay to fight, and you must win. Don't hesitate to pinch him, punch him, twist him, bite him, scratch him, or point at him with your finger. Feminine actions and your cuteness when you're being unreasonable will make him give in. Then, put a lollipop in the loser's mouth as a consolation prize.
There's an art to being charming and coquettish—a silly little woman
Forget the battles of the workplace or exams; just think about sweet, romantic things—like kissing, hugging, or asking silly questions you already know the answer to… Let your thoughts guide your actions, let your mind direct your hands and feet. With this feminine side, you'll unconsciously transform into a soft, sweet little girl, wholeheartedly waiting for him to cherish you.
There's an art to being charming—subtle, unintentional interactions
When you're angry, try shaking your body and saying "no." When you make a request, try hanging around his neck with both hands. In daily life, try to casually touch the back of his hand or shoulder. When walking on the street, tug at his sleeve or hold his elbow for a while. Men won't pay much attention to these small gestures, but such sweet little actions will leave him helpless and make him obediently give in to you.
In modern society, it's not uncommon for women to pursue men. If you really meet someone you like, instead of thinking about them day and night or hoping that they will one day realize your feelings, it's better to openly express your feelings. This will make it easier to find a good match.
Let him see your femininity
When you're with him, he might only see you as a female friend. But if your feelings for him have gone beyond ordinary romantic feelings, then you should consider his feelings for you from a man's perspective. For example, to win his attention, you can start by improving your interpersonal skills, speaking more gently and subtly. This femininity can give him a different feeling, and perhaps in that instant, he will consider that your relationship should go deeper.
Appropriate and sincere praise
Everyone enjoys being praised, and men are no exception. If you can praise him appropriately and at the right time, he will feel extremely satisfied and will feel that you are a woman who understands him. However, praise must be given in moderation. A sincere compliment can give him strength and let him see your understanding, but excessive flattery will only make him doubt your intentions.
Playing the ambiguity game
The ambiguous period between a man and a woman is actually the happiest. If you're truly interested in him, you need to take on the responsibility of setting the mood. For example, things might be going well normally, but occasionally refusing his dates or showing a cold attitude can subtly make him nervous. Furthermore, a woman should always project a sense of mystery around a man, creating small surprises for him every time you meet. This is how a man will become completely infatuated with you.
Feint to the east while attacking the west, secretly crossing the Chencang pass
Sometimes, directly pursuing your crush isn't easy. Perhaps he's introverted, and acting rashly without knowing much about him could lead to failure. In such cases, it's advisable to start with his friends or roommates. Feign interest in other, more easily attainable guys, and gradually learn more about your true target – him. For example, what he likes to eat, what he enjoys doing, and what he's interested in. Simultaneously, frequently visiting places they frequent will also allow him to get to know you, thus discerning whether he has feelings for you. At the opportune moment, launch your attack, and you'll have a better chance of success.
To capture the king, first conquer his heart.
Although we're no longer in a feudal era where marriages are solely based on parental arrangement, some men still largely consider their parents' opinions. Therefore, winning over the future in-laws is quite necessary. During your interactions with him, thoroughly understand whether his family is patriarchal (father-led) or matriarchal (mother-led). Then, determine your target, devise a meticulous plan, and conquer his heart, making him a strong supporter. This will ensure your success.
