1. Men are most interested in their wives' "best friends".
Men are most interested in things they hear about frequently but never experience. For example, their wife's best friend—they hear about her every day, but what kind of person is that woman really?
2. The more they break up, the more they fall in love.
Many relationships between men and women begin precisely on the day of their breakup. This reflects the possessiveness fostered in the upbringing of modern young men and women—a desire to possess and a reluctance to lose. Their greed for relationships is growing stronger.
3. The trend of "renting" relationships.
"Renting a lover to go home for Chinese New Year" and "Renting a lover for Valentine's Day"—the younger generation in cities is increasingly fond of "emotional rental services." This is related to their childhood dependence on fast food and their desire to solve problems, including emotional ones, in the quickest way possible.
4. Valentine's Day is a "life-or-death ordeal" for lovers.
Valentine's Day is the first major hurdle for couples, with many previously sweet couples breaking up around that time.
5. The faster a man apologizes, the less sincere he is.
A man with true self-respect and genuine feelings will never casually say "sorry" at the first opportunity. When a man apologizes more and more easily, a woman should be aware that he may be loving her less and less.
6. The more one person loves, the faster the other will betray them.
It's clear that "human nature is inherently base," and this applies to more than just buying and selling!
7. Long-married couples understand each other the least.
Once a relationship stabilizes, both partners become less inclined to pay attention to each other. The peak of the relationship gradually declines, and sometimes long-married couples don't understand each other as well as newlywed couples.
8. A "good wife" cannot raise a good husband.
Women often hope to be a man's "good helper," assisting him in both his career and life. However, psychology has found that the more a "good helper" is by a man's side, the weaker he becomes.
9. Daughters who obey their mothers have a higher divorce rate.
The chances of marital problems for obedient girls are increasing, and parental "guidance" is becoming a killer of marriages for young couples today!
10. It takes a year of dating to truly "fall in love" with the other person.
During the passionate phase of a relationship, people are so infatuated that they have no time to objectively consider their partner. Only when the passion gradually fades can they truly let go of their preconceived notions and start to love the objective person beside them.
11. The more money you spend before marriage, the worse your relationship will be after marriage.
Women use spending money as a standard to judge love, while men use the money they spend as a reason to retaliate against their marriage.
NO.1 The function of this product for men is to solve problems, not to listen.
You tell him about the trouble you encountered today. At first, he listens attentively and tells you a solution. As you continue talking, he seems less and less attentive, so you get angry. How could you have found such an uncaring boyfriend?
Actually, you're wrong. Men and women think in completely different ways. When faced with problems and pressure, men focus on solutions, while women focus on confiding in someone. When he offers a solution, it's his way of expressing affection. If you continue talking after the task is completed, he'll feel you're dissatisfied with his solution, that he hasn't helped you, and he'll start to doubt his abilities, leading to frustration. Meanwhile, you might feel he doesn't care about you, and so you start arguing.
When you encounter a problem, don't ask a guy for advice; instead, listen to a girl. It's like a vacuum cleaner—you can't use it to fish. Misunderstanding the product's function is your problem.
NO.2 If he doesn't seem to love you, then he really doesn't.
The biggest reason a guy bullies you is because he doesn't like you at all. His lack of enthusiasm stems from his lack of love for you.
On your first date, he suggested splitting the bill; he said he'd contact you later instead of saying he'd call you tonight; he said he'd ask you out again later without giving a specific date; he said he wasn't looking for a girlfriend right now, which really meant you weren't the one he was looking for; he said he was too busy to even have time for a glass of juice, which really meant you weren't worth his time. You made up many excuses for him not calling, suspecting his phone was lost, broken, or he was away on a business trip in a remote mountain cave with no signal—but you were just fooling yourself.
In short, he doesn't really like you that much.
No. 3 Don't blame him for taking every game so seriously.
Boys always put themselves in a competitive environment, a typical example being driving. Girls drive to get themselves to their destination safely, while boys drive to leave the cars that started with them behind.
The same applies to playing computer games. Psychological studies have shown that men's top five requirements for women are, in order: 1. Sex; 2. Physical attractiveness; 3. Feeling admired; 4. Being able to play together; 5. Helping with their career. If he enjoys a particular game, and instead of criticizing his dedication, you try to show your own enthusiasm, he'll include you in his list of games he can play with, and his feelings for you will increase significantly.
No. 4 A guy who loves you will stay silent in front of you, but a guy who doesn't love you won't even give you silence.
The girl felt that if he loved her, he should express it and be passionate all the time. She couldn't understand why he was so quiet and reserved when they were together.
There are two reasons why a guy might be silent in a relationship: 1. It's just his nature. When he's with you, he might occasionally drift off, missing the solitude and calm he felt before being in a relationship. He feels that the prolonged intimacy with you makes him lose himself, so he wants to be alone for a while. 2. He's facing trouble, something that needs to be resolved. This is his time to lick his wounds and gather strength to deal with the problem. Once he finds a solution, he'll get through it on his own.
Don't bother him at this time, and don't argue with him about whether he doesn't love you anymore because he's not talking to you. Just find something you like to do.
Usually, after 20 minutes to an hour, he will start to miss the sweetness of having you by his side and will take the initiative to come out.
If a guy doesn't love you, he'll run far away and won't even give you a chance to be silent in front of him.
No. 5 Never try to negotiate with a guy. Just because two people love each other doesn't mean they can resolve things through negotiation.
American psychologists say that men and women each have six basic needs in love. Men need forms of love including trust, acceptance, gratitude, praise, recognition, and encouragement; women need forms of love such as care, understanding, respect, loyalty, thoughtfulness, and comfort. When disagreements arise, it's more effective than heated arguments to lean on his chest and say nothing.
Once he calms down, he will naturally understand your feelings and will proactively adjust his pace to match yours.
