On May 20th, renowned actor and singer Wei Chen officially announced his marriage registration at 13:14, followed shortly by Zheng Kai, a regular cast member of the variety show "Running Man," who also announced his marriage registration, much to the envy of many netizens.
Just a few days before Valentine's Day, the hashtag #ShenzhenDivorceQueue# soared to the top of Weibo's trending topics list . Many netizens said that seeing this phenomenon made them even more reluctant to get divorced, and even afraid of marriage.
With divorce rates rising, is it necessary to implement a cooling-off period for divorce?
According to data from the Civil Affairs Bureau covering 31 years from 1987 to 2017, the phenomenon of "late marriage" is obvious, and the divorce rate has increased for 15 consecutive years, from 0.55% to 3.2% .
It is not surprising that the divorce rate has risen to some extent. Couples work in different places for a long time . In many rural areas of China, farmland is now left to the elderly to cultivate. Both husband and wife go out to work, or the husband works away from home all year round, and the couple can only see each other a few times a year .
Large-scale population mobility and long-term separation of couples are also reasons for the increasing number of divorces among Chinese people.
Secondly, young people often rush into marriage due to momentary impulses . As a result, when the two live together, they find that they cannot adapt to each other's lifestyles, often quarrel, and ultimately choose to divorce because of the hasty marriage.
In real life, many people divorce on impulse, and the relationship between husband and wife has not completely broken down, so there is still a possibility of saving the marriage.
Setting a cooling-off period for divorce is actually a way to give couples who are impulsive in their divorce a way out , and it also helps to reduce the occurrence of impulsive divorces.
However, without distinguishing the specific reasons for divorce, a "one-size-fits-all" cooling-off period for divorce may objectively have negative effects, causing mental and physical suffering to the divorcing parties, especially the weaker party in the marriage.
However, the "cooling-off period" at this time has become a "period of abuse," causing further serious harm to the weaker party in the marital relationship, which completely violates the original intention of the cooling-off period.
In cases like domestic violence, where a cooling-off period for divorce is completely unnecessary, such legislation is also necessary. In the past, marriage was a form of protection and a sense of belonging, but nowadays, most people shy away from the idea of marriage.
Why are young people these days afraid to get married?
According to data from the Ministry of Civil Affairs, China has over 200 million single adults and over 77 million adults living alone . Why are young people less inclined to get married these days? It's closely related to these reasons.
1. Economic pressure
Nowadays, young people work in big cities and spend very little time at home throughout the year. They think they can earn a lot of money by working hard all year, but in reality, their monthly salary is not enough to cover their expenses. In addition, mortgage and car loan payments after marriage further discourage many young people from working.
Sometimes, the money they earn in a year isn't even enough for the fare home. It's this pressure of income that makes young people afraid to get married and worried about not being able to support a family.
2. Family conflicts
The most alluring thing about being single is the unlimited freedom, while being in a relationship means mutual compromise and tolerance, but it also means conflicts and arguments. Some relationships may seem warm and cozy, but are actually quite stressful.
Especially after having children, more energy needs to be devoted to family. The quality of life declines significantly , and the inability to fully dedicate oneself to one's career will inevitably have some impact.
3. Improved education level
In today's society, more than 75% of graduates can receive higher education, so marriage is not the first step to adulthood; education is.
For young people who prioritize their studies, they spend a lot of time studying, and dating becomes less important.
4. Domestic violence and infidelity are frequent occurrences.
In recent years, negative news such as celebrity domestic violence and infidelity have emerged one after another. For example, some time ago , Weibo influencer Yuya exposed a video of herself being domestically abused , once again pushing the topic of "domestic violence" to the forefront of public opinion.
Not only in the news, but also around us, many cases of domestic violence and infidelity occur, which undoubtedly exacerbate the fear of marriage among contemporary women . Many girls are now afraid to get married for these reasons.
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Committee member Jianfeng suggested that the Central Committee of the Communist Youth League could take the lead and give full play to the organizational advantages of the Communist Youth League, which covers administrative agencies at all levels and a wide range of enterprises and institutions across the country.
By fully integrating new methods and technologies in the internet field in the new era, we will build a platform for trust and communication for single young people , and continuously carry out a variety of online and offline youth social activities to help young people find love and embrace their own happiness.
While being single isn't a big problem, time can easily slip by and you might find yourself getting older and unable to find a suitable partner to get married.
Therefore, single men and women should give themselves a time limit for being single. Enjoy being single within this time limit, and when you've enjoyed it enough, you can start a romantic relationship and experience the joy of being with someone and a family.
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References
[1] Li Huijun. Why you dare not get married [J]. Family Science·New Health, 2009(9): 46-47.
[2] Fan Meng. A brief analysis of the cooling-off period for divorce [J]. Legal System Review, 2019(07): 190-191.
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