At some point, "greasy" became a descriptive term for middle-aged people. However, the lives of many middle-aged women are far from being as fulfilling as "greasy," often appearing wrinkled and devoid of any nourishment. Therefore, what middle-aged women fear most is not being "greasy," but rather losing their ability to negotiate with the world.
1. Negotiating the price of marriage and relationships
Some women, upon reaching middle age, are hesitant to even mention the word "divorce." No matter how incompetent their husbands are, or how much of a breadwinner they are, they are unwilling to leave their families. These middle-aged women are not afraid of being unable to live without a man, but rather of losing their bargaining power regarding marriage and relationships.
Their underlying logic is that once divorced, remarriage becomes extremely difficult, and finding a suitable partner is virtually impossible. This is because marriage has already taken away the best years of their lives; their looks are fading, and they no longer care as much about dressing up and skincare as they did in their youth. If they divorce, will anyone still pursue them?
Tip: As long as you put more effort into self-care and learn new knowledge, you won't be left behind by the times, and you can still make a name for yourself with your abilities and charisma.
2. Workplace Negotiation
Middle-aged women often face greater challenges in their career advancement than men. This difficulty stems from factors such as their level of education, their tendency to be dependent on others, and the career gap that often occurs after childbirth. Furthermore, many women today have two children, making it difficult to balance family and work, especially given the demands of caring for both elderly parents and young children.
Some middle-aged women dedicate their youth entirely to their careers and never have children. Although their careers are thriving, only the women involved and their families can truly understand the hardships they endure. Outsiders only see the glamour and not the bitterness.
Advice: It's often difficult to balance family and career. You need to carefully consider which is more important and manage both effectively. Continuously improve your skills and knowledge to prepare for future career changes.
3. Negotiating the price of childbirth
Middle-aged women are often past the age of advanced maternal age, but with the relaxation of the national policy on having two children, some middle-aged women are pregnant again. However, there are still a number of women who are unwilling to take the "second child" train for the sake of their careers or because they are not suitable for having children.
Let alone a second child, the first child is already grown up and old enough to run errands, some even reaching the rebellious stage of adolescence, leaving middle-aged women exhausted. Taking care of both the child's physical and mental well-being is no easy task.
If she gets divorced, it's uncertain whether she'll get custody of the children, whether she can support them, or whether she can have another child. These are all big questions that make it difficult for middle-aged women to make the decision to divorce.
Tip: With today's advanced reproductive technology, many middle-aged celebrities have already realized their dream of having children. Why not take advantage of this new technology!
What middle-aged women fear most isn't becoming "greasy" (unrefined or jaded), but rather losing three key bargaining power in the world. However, these bargaining power can be cultivated in middle-aged women; it's time to change yourself!
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