Dating, job changes, and moving all lead to changes in living environment, and many relationships sour or even break up because of these changes. Is giving up too soon? Japan News Network tells the story of a woman and her boyfriend who successfully overcame a breakup crisis and got married.
After graduating from university, we began a seven-year long-distance relationship. I was in Aomori, and he was in Osaka, we could only see each other once a month, sometimes not even that. Later, we decided to live together with marriage in mind. Because we had been separated for so long, I had been looking forward to our happy life together for months, and I was very excited. Later, I made thorough preparations and moved to Osaka to live with him. But less than a month later, our relationship began to subtly change.
I was in great pain because our relationship was deteriorating. He was the same; he didn't want to stay at home anymore and often came back drunk. I lay in bed alone, crying my heart out, wondering why I had come all this way here. I missed my parents so much, and I longed to go home.
"This might be the end for us!" I thought to myself. Just when I was about to give up, a friend from my family, who was worried about me, introduced me to a fortune teller. Eager for advice, I immediately emailed him. The next day, the fortune teller replied: "Your heart is still in Aomori, and your boyfriend is still longing for a life with someone else. To bridge the gap between you, you must realize that your current life is your future life."
Furthermore, the fortune teller offered me a solution: he suggested I grow some vegetables on the balcony, but only if my boyfriend and I did it together. I found his suggestion unbelievable, but decided to give it a try. It turned out my boyfriend thoroughly enjoyed tending the plants, and together we cultivated our own home garden, even cooking the vegetables together. Before I knew it, coming home became a joyful experience, and the distance between us vanished completely.
Caring for the plants taught us both about responsibility and the importance of our present lives. We dated for seven years, and it's wonderful that we didn't break up simply because of changes in circumstances. I'm also very grateful to the fortune teller who helped me. We not only overcame the crisis of breaking up but also decided to get married next year. Just as the fortune teller said, the sooner you discover any estrangement or insecurity in a relationship, the easier it is to resolve.
