What does it take to win a man's heart? Beauty? Virtue? Cooking skills? NO, none of those. To make a man's heart belong only to you, many things are needed, and you must constantly surprise him. The Best Girlfriend Guide will make you his one and only.
Just as beauty is a lifelong pursuit for women, how to capture a man's heart is a lifelong study for women as well. But men are just as fickle as women, so how can you truly capture his heart? A smart woman doesn't necessarily need stunning beauty, but she must give off a comfortable and clean impression; she doesn't necessarily need exceptional culinary skills, but she must have one or two signature dishes; she doesn't necessarily need to stay home and be a devoted wife and mother, but she must be there to support him when he needs her. Becoming the best girlfriend is not an easy task.
1. Women should dress up. Make yourself look pretty and cute every day, and love wholeheartedly at least once. Most women need one deeply moving love experience to develop emotional immunity as early as possible and to leave more room for rationality in the future.
2. Read more and think more. Knowledge can improve your destiny, and its benefits will gradually become apparent after you turn 25. By then, you'll never recapture the feeling of youth, and when you see the young people around you, you'll only feel envy. At this stage, a woman's temperament is paramount, and temperament is inseparable from inner qualities. Be grateful for the books you've read, the struggles you've undertaken, the self-reflection you've had, and the optimistic and dedicated life you've led; temperament cannot be faked.
3. Have your own career. While not every woman has such a strong sense of career, at least you can do something you enjoy, even if it's just writing. Qiong Yao's writings have made her a lot of money; perhaps you can surpass her. Don't tell me you only like lying on the sofa watching TV and eating snacks.
4. Be an economically and intellectually independent woman. Under this premise, be a sweet, obedient kitten in front of a boyfriend who respects you, without any pressure.
5. Maintain a sense of mystery. Don't reveal everything about yourself to him. A person who is too full will lose their appetite and won't be grateful.
6. Know when to hide behind him. Men like women to be petite and dependent on them, so women also like to hide behind men and let them protect them.
7. Be clumsy only in front of him, so that he will be surprised to discover that even you, who are considered brilliant by everyone else, can make silly mistakes that only he knows about.
8. Don't lose your composure in the face of adversity. In the long journey of life, there will be many times when even two people are together, there will be things that one person has to face alone. Being able to handle things independently is a sign of adulthood. Even if you are a couple or spouses, it cannot hide the fact that you are two individuals.
9. Don't constantly test a man. And definitely don't threaten to break up. If you frequently give him this hint, his subconscious will prepare for a breakup. If he suddenly agrees one day, you'll regret it.
10. Don't needlessly erode the love between you. Don't be frequently late, and don't assume that because a man loves you, he should have endless patience. Everyone's patience has its limits; once patience runs out, love will also fade. Don't frequently ask a man to go shopping with you; most men don't truly enjoy shopping, and forcing them will only lead to resistance.
11. Don't measure your boyfriend's love for you by money. If you truly love him, you'll compare prices at three different stores when buying things for yourself, but you'll buy him things he likes without hesitation. If you truly love him, you won't ask him for expensive gifts; you'll only hope he can spend the whole day with you on your birthday.
12. Protect his self-esteem. Whether in front of others or alone, hurt is hurt, regardless of whether he loves you or not. Give him complete confidence. Don't let a moment of pride cause you to ignore a man's most basic dignity.
If you truly love him, give him face in front of his friends. There's no need to argue with your boyfriend until you're red in the face. If you're right, he'll think you're competitive and unforgiving; if you're wrong, he'll think you're being unreasonable and making a fuss endlessly.
13. Give both of you some personal space. Men like to breathe freely; giving him some space will deepen your relationship. When you're bored, lonely, or he's not around, do you wonder what he's doing? What if his phone is dead and you can't reach him? Then you feel anxious. If you truly love him, don't tell him how much you care or how much you want him by your side all the time. Instead, talk to some friends, chat on the phone, go shopping, or kill time.
14. Show your boyfriend some concern often. If you truly love him, your heart will always be with him: How was your day? Did you get enough rest? Did you eat on time? But showing concern doesn't mean nagging or monitoring.
15. When your boyfriend is troubled, gently comfort him and share his burdens. Praise him often; a single word from you might be his motivation. If you truly love him, you will wholeheartedly support him and do the things he enjoys together. Don't let him stop moving forward because of you; learn to encourage him so he can move forward without worries. Because life is short, happiness is the most important thing.
16. After he has been busy with life all day, don’t stay away from him because of his unpleasant smell of sweat. Gently wipe away his sweat. When he is too lazy to take a bath, prepare water for him to soak his feet and help him wash his face and massage him, instead of kicking him out of bed.
17. Keep a certain distance from your boyfriend's boyfriend. If you're too far away, he'll say you're not enthusiastic about his friend; if you're too close, things could get really messy.
18. Don't constantly compare your man to other men, and don't say he's not as romantic or considerate as others. Everyone is unique, and the way people express love is different. Saying things like that frequently will make love a psychological burden.
19. Don't guide your relationship with this mindset—looking for evidence of a man's lack of love in his words and actions. Men can't focus their energy on women every single moment, nor can they notice every hint or displeasure a woman might have. When you use a magnifying glass to look for dust, you'll always find it.
20. Don't measure love by winning or losing. If your relationship involves you enjoying more rights while your partner has to fulfill more obligations, then you should try to change things. Love also follows the laws of economics; a win-win situation is more likely to last.
