1) Check whereabouts
"What are you doing right now?" "What time are you coming home today?"
More than a handful of people check on his whereabouts daily by phone or text message. They feel uneasy if they don't know all of his movements.
2) When he didn't call back immediately, a hidden anger rose within him.
Even if it's nothing serious, if he doesn't answer the phone or return a call, he'll fly into a rage and interrogate the other party endlessly, regardless of whether they have a legitimate reason.
3) Whenever he receives a call, he asks who is calling.
When he receives any phone call, he'll casually ask, "Who's calling?" If his tone is overly friendly, he'll feel annoyed and disappointed. He'll even go further, secretly checking his phone's call logs, listening to his voicemail, and emails.
4) Request to meet with his friends and colleagues.
Instead of wanting to broaden their social circle or learn more about him, they want to get to know his colleagues and friends, which gradually escalates into interfering with his friendships, such as forbidding him from continuing to associate with a certain person.
How to cure obsessive-compulsive disorder
Among the various small habits that may lead to obsessive-compulsive disorder in relationships, patients generally share these common traits: fear of loneliness, strong jealousy, strong suspicion, and lack of self-confidence.
Experts believe that people with so-called relationship compulsions are actually trying to prove their presence in the relationship in various ways.
How to heal yourself
1) Record "I love you" and listen to it when needed.
Record it on your phone when the other person says "I love you," and always keep the love letters they write to you with you.
If you have any doubts, to avoid getting directly entangled with the other person, listen to or read some sweet declarations of love. The reason for relationship compulsion is due to unstable emotions; if these emotions can be soothed, they will stabilize.
2) Change your mindset
People with a tendency towards relationship compulsion often have this mindset: "I'm doing all this for his own good." Try changing this affirmative sentence into a question: "I'm doing all this for his own good?" Or perhaps you should spend more time and effort understanding his true needs.
3) Don't forget your friends
The reason why some people fall into the trap of "relationship compulsion" is that they focus too much on their partner and revolve around them, losing their own social circle.
When it's rare to meet with friends, I'm either absent-minded or just talking non-stop, with five out of ten sentences revolving around "my boyfriend this and that." I should stop prioritizing my boyfriend over my friends and stop turning down a pre-arranged gathering with them because "my boyfriend wants me to be with him."
4) Control your breathing
You might not have noticed, but our breathing is greatly affected by our emotions. When we are happy or relaxed, our breathing naturally becomes deep and long. This allows our bodies to obtain more oxygen, which helps to regulate our mind and body.
When you feel uneasy, lonely, irritable, or anxious, your breathing becomes shallow and rapid.
Therefore, frequent, deep, and long breaths will relax both your body and mind. Abdominal breathing is recommended.
The method involves breathing through your nose; when you inhale, your stomach expands; when you exhale, your stomach contracts. With practice, this will gradually become second nature. If you can provide your body with ample oxygen, emotional control will become easier.
