Marriage is essentially about finding a partner to live a good life with. Before that, you can have many relationships and date different people. In other words, marriage is more of a responsibility. In fact, every relationship should have a good beginning and a good end. Perhaps you're not destined to be together until the end, but you should part amicably, without making things awkward or completely ruining your relationship. Actually, marriage isn't as illusory as love; it's about living a practical life together, requiring cooperation and mutual support from both people. However, not everyone has to get married. Some people may simply not be suited for marriage, only for dating. Generally speaking, the main reasons why men avoid marriage include the following three aspects.
First, I'm too busy with my career to have any time for dating.
Many successful men are so-called "golden bachelors," surrounded by women, but they consistently avoid marriage because they're too busy. Their careers expand relentlessly, leaving them little time for romance. Men overly focused on their careers may not intend to marry. Even if they do marry, they'll likely seek a business partner, someone with whom they share common interests. Furthermore, to be the partner of a successful or career-oriented man, one must first be able to support him; at the very least, this partner shouldn't be an obstacle to his career expansion.
Second, they place too much importance on their inner feelings and have unrealistic expectations about marriage .
Some men are overly concerned with their personal feelings and harbor certain fantasies about marriage, leading them to avoid it. After all, marriage is a very mundane affair. Once you step into the "walled city" of marriage, all you'll see are the mundane realities of daily life. Moreover, you're prepared to spend your life with another person. If this partner isn't someone you truly love, then a marriage of convenience is destined to bring pain and turmoil. Therefore, men who place too much importance on their personal feelings often harbor a strong aversion to marriage. Men who prioritize their personal feelings often lack tolerance for their partners, and marriage itself requires mutual understanding and compromise; otherwise, it cannot continue.
Third, a complete non-marriage advocate who values freedom and independence.
A significant reason some men avoid marriage is that they value freedom and independence above all else, even more than life itself. As the saying goes, "Marriage is precious, but love is even more valuable. For freedom, both can be sacrificed." Some men are simply staunch non-marriage advocates; in their dictionary, there is only love, not marriage. They can fully enjoy the sweetness and freedom of love, but they cannot bear the responsibilities and mundane details of marriage. Men are essentially children who never grow up; even Jiang Wen said in his latest film that he is just a child. In matters of the heart, men may never truly mature. This is also a crucial reason why men avoid marriage.
