What kind of man is the ideal partner, someone you can entrust your life to? We've summarized 10 criteria.
Willing to work hard to repair the relationship after an argument
No matter how ugly your arguments get, he's still willing to try to repair your relationship afterward. Remember, the content of your arguments is never as important as whether your relationship can be repaired and improved.
Willing to work hard to overcome difficulties
If your partner is currently working on a project or at work, will they easily give up when they encounter a problem? Or will they choose to persevere despite setbacks? Their attitude towards handling a task at work can, to some extent, reflect how they handle emotional issues.
Able to delay gratification
In the famous marshmallow experiment, some children covered their eyes or turned their backs to avoid looking at the tempting marshmallow, while others started fidgeting—kicking the table, pulling their braids, and some even hitting the marshmallow. As a result, most children gave up in less than three minutes, and only about a third successfully delayed their craving for the marshmallow. Does your partner possess this ability to delay gratification?
Able to distinguish subtle emotions
People who have difficulty discerning others' emotions not only struggle to identify the other person's needs but also find it difficult to express their own feelings, which can lead to communication and emotional barriers.
Able to support your dreams
When you share your dreams with him, he won't laugh at you like others do, but instead support you and even help you; and when you are excited about being on the path to your dreams, he can empathize with you and be happy for you.
I am very honest with you
Men may lie to women occasionally for various reasons, but they still want to tell you the whole story, even if it sounds unpleasant. These men simply want you to see the truth, and even if you get angry, they're still willing to share the real situation with you.
I always want to give you a better life.
They don't want to make you feel bad, and they'd rather suffer themselves. They're willing to work overtime and even learn new skills to provide you with a better material life. These men have you in their hearts. It's said that you should judge a person by their words and actions; they are men who show you "I love you" through their actions.
He will remember your preferences
He remembers your preferences: whether you like sour or spicy food, or dislike cilantro or fennel. Men who are usually oblivious often become unusually attentive when in love. This is all because he loves you and doesn't want to miss any details about your life. Such a man is a reliable boyfriend.
Holidays always bring you surprises
Girls value holidays, but guys often find them a bit of a hassle. However, if he wants you to be happiest on this day and feel no disappointment, he'll observe you well in advance, try his best to buy you the gifts you like, and do everything he can to make your day special. If you meet a man who goes to such lengths to please you, marry him!
He puts your health first.
He won't make you diet, won't let you skip dinner, and certainly won't let you stay up all night. All these "forbidden" rules aren't because he's controlling, but because he prioritizes your health. He'll stop any behavior that harms your health. A man who can disregard certain things to put your health first is a rare find.
In fact, achieving a happy marriage is no easy feat. Therefore, whether they are deeply in love or preparing for marriage, they all want to make sure they have chosen the right partner before putting in any effort, and whether they can change themselves and actively adjust their relationship if problems arise in the marriage.
Therefore, long before a couple formally enters the marriage hall, their marital relationship has already entered its first stage. When two people in love gradually become mature, independent, and responsible, willing to put their common interests above their personal pursuits, willingly consider each other's needs without complaint, and do not lose themselves in their relationship, then their married life begins.
A mentally mature partner should be strong and courageous when facing difficulties; tolerant and generous when concessions are needed; make changes when the marital relationship requires them to adjust themselves; and continuously grow when changes occur in life.
If both spouses lack these qualities, they will be unable to establish a harmonious and ideal marital relationship, even if they possess other desirable personality traits.
Many people set criteria when choosing a partner, requiring them to be charming, share similar interests, be humorous, have a stable income, be sexy, and so on. Have you noticed that I didn't mention any of these criteria? Because these so-called "shining points" are simply his unique qualities.
Many people mistakenly believe that the secret to a happy marriage is choosing the "right partner," but that's far from the truth. The real secret is making your partner the "right partner"—someone with whom you can live harmoniously and spend your life.
If you browse the profiles on popular dating websites, you'll find ample evidence to support this argument. Upon closer examination, you'll further discover that when asked, "What is your biggest concern about marriage?", "Never-married singles" and "divorced singles" often give drastically different answers. You might assume that since both groups are single, their answers would be similar, but you'd be wrong. Divorced people feel their biggest worry is that marriage will cause the couple to drift apart; while never-married people's biggest concern is finding a suitable partner.
It is evident that before marriage, most people believe that the secret to a happy marriage is choosing the right partner. However, after experiencing a failed marriage, they realize that the real secret is to find a partner who is determined to grow and move forward hand in hand with them in their future married life.
How many people yearn for happiness but dare not face the truth?
Whether you are currently single, preparing for marriage, or married and want to improve your relationship, you should examine whether you and your partner can maturely handle your relationship. This is crucial and fundamentally determines the future of your marriage.
Therefore, you need to engage in deep self-reflection and ask yourself: how malleable are you and your partner (or the person who will become your life partner) in your married life? Even if you are currently passionately in love or have been married for many years, if your personalities lack the qualities I mentioned, it will be difficult for you to make your marriage happy and fulfilling.
Keep in mind that if you are unwilling or unable to change yourself, even the best marriage counselor in the world will be unable to help you.
In fact, the best way to choose a partner and the most effective way to save a marriage are the same—to be 100% honest with yourself. Even if you discover some truths you don't want to face, be brave enough to confront your own heart. This requires you to carefully examine your own character and habits in your married life.
