A married woman's greatest expectation is to be a devoted wife and mother, cherished by her husband. But wishing is one thing, doing is another. So, consider these five principles, and winning your husband's heart will be within your reach.
Principle 1: You must have a job of your own.
A woman should be an independent tree, and her husband should be the tree beside her. Without your own job, you'll become a vine, clinging tightly to him, dependent on him for growth. He may appreciate your dependence and affection, but over time, he'll resent you draining his resources and hindering his progress, and he'll long for you to leave so he can grow freely. Therefore, a wise woman understands this: if you don't want your husband to tire of you, you must have your own job. You must be independent yet mutually supportive; only then can your marriage last.
Principle Two: Women must pay attention to their image.
God didn't give you a beautiful face or a perfect figure, but He certainly didn't give you the right to squander yourself. Many married women, especially after having children, become slovenly, completely different from their pre-marital selves. Where did that reserved, gentle, passionate, and charming woman go? A smart woman knows how to apply makeup, what to wear for what occasion. It's okay not to be beautiful, but you must be dignified and appropriate! Don't wear sneakers under a ladylike skirt, or high heels under sweatpants; don't wear stockings with a run, and be mindful of your underarm area under a tank top. If you frequently spoil your husband's mood, embarrass him, or offend him, forget about him being infatuated with you; your marriage might even be in trouble.
Principle Three: Always take sex life seriously.
In a harmonious marriage, the couple's sex life is of paramount importance. The wife's role in this relationship is crucial. A woman's deliberate efforts—seemingly unintentional but actually deliberate attraction or guidance—are essential for building a harmonious sex life. For example, wearing sexy lingerie, whispering sweet nothings, and even if her husband is unable to perform sexually for various reasons, she should still offer him special care and affection.
Many women neglect the care of their private parts after having children, resulting in vaginal laxity after childbirth and difficulty in regaining its previous tightness. If these problems are not addressed in time, they can easily affect the harmony of marital life!
Principle Four: Women should have their own living space
If you love your husband, don't be like suffocating air, constantly making him feel trapped. Learn to give yourself space, and also loosen up your husband's grip. Always remember this: "The better a woman treats herself, the more her husband will care about her."
Don't assume that marriage means a woman can hand over everything to her husband. A woman without mystery is like a glass of plain water to her husband. Women who check their husbands' text messages and online chat history are foolish; it's a sign of your insecurity. Many women say that once a man has them, he doesn't love them as much as before. That's because you've lost your mystery, and he no longer has the desire to explore you.
Principle Five: Be a good housewife, and also a good mother.
It's often said that to win a man's heart, you must win his stomach. Even if you're a king's daughter, once you marry a man, you'll still face three meals a day. A good housewife must be able to cook; only then will your home feel like a home. If your home is no different from a hotel in your husband's eyes, then there's certainly nothing to cherish. But if your cooking skills are almost good enough to be featured on CCTV's "Manchu Han Imperial Feast," your husband certainly won't sneak off to restaurants and leave you eating alone at home every day!
I firmly believe in the saying that adults are a mirror for children. This is actually the best way to create a harmonious family atmosphere. Why do men work so hard outside the home? Isn't it all for their families? A father's pride in his children is the greatest praise a man can receive.
Women need to be aware of potential risks in marriage. Today's society is full of temptations, and traps of all kinds are constantly looming. Therefore, women should consider the worst-case scenario, but they shouldn't fear the word "divorce." Divorce isn't actually that scary. If he doesn't love you, what's the point of a home? Besides reflecting on your actions, you should fight for what you deserve and start looking for new love.
