1. Always arguing
Constant arguments are a sign of a fading relationship. Nobody likes dealing with this kind of trouble, and sometimes the one who starts the argument just wants to get rid of the other person. Many men are afraid of breaking up with women, so they use infidelity and arguments to force her to leave them with no other choice. Reflecting on whether there's more laughter or arguments between you can help you judge the future direction of your relationship.
2. Unequal emotional investment
Psychological and emotional abuse can sometimes be just as bad as physical abuse, so be careful when the way he treats you is hurting you. When you constantly need to make excuses for his behavior or words, it's time to reconsider your relationship with him.
3. The relationship did not progress to the next stage.
If your relationship isn't progressing, you have two choices: either talk to your boyfriend about your future and see if you're heading in different directions, or start looking for a new "Prince Charming." The life you want should be your first priority; don't waste time on someone you don't intend to be with forever.
4. Seeking excitement in relationships
If you get tired of it, you can learn a foreign language, travel, learn pottery... but don't risk your emotions, and don't seek excitement in relationships.
5. Committing violence
As the most direct and brutal type of domestic violence, physical violence is currently the main form of domestic violence. Most of the time, the perpetrator has only one goal: to vent their anger through violence in order to control the other party.
6. Being with him is no longer fun.
Whether it's dating or traveling, if you find spending time with your boyfriend uninteresting, it's hard to enjoy it. If you'd rather spend more time with your girlfriends or alone than have him with you, then this is definitely one of the signs that it's time to break up.
7. No sex
The presence of sex signifies that you've crossed the line from good friends, indicating a desire for connection with this person. When you and your partner no longer have sex, or even the thought of it, you're left with only friendship. Sex often plays a catalytic role in lasting emotional relationships.
8. He deliberately kept his distance.
When men find it difficult to say "break up," they'll try other ways to get the woman to initiate it. If he's growing distant from you, you should have an honest conversation with him. Make sure to conduct your conversation calmly and don't put too much pressure on him.
9. You start flirting with other men.
It's normal for your eyes to wander to other men. But it's different when you want to flirt with him or get his phone number—especially if that person isn't your boyfriend.
10. Your friend doesn't approve of this relationship.
If your friends don't approve of your boyfriend, that's a factor to consider. Of course, your friends just want you to be happy; if they hear too much about him making your life difficult, they naturally won't like him. Also, be careful about what you reveal to your girlfriend about your relationship.
The success of a relationship isn't determined by whether you're still together, but by the quality of the relationship. Holding hands doesn't always signify success, and breaking up doesn't always mean failure. The key is whether you've accomplished two important psychological tasks in the relationship: whether you understand your own needs better, and whether you've learned to cherish others.
The opposite of love shouldn't be hate, but rather forgetting; so why does love sometimes turn into hate instead of forgetting for some people? It's because they lack self-confidence in love...
In a romantic relationship, we need to complete two important psychological tasks:
First, you need to understand yourself better.
In addition to self-awareness, it allows for a more complete and clear presentation of oneself in romantic relationships.
Second, cultivate our ability to love others.
Learn to love others from the moment you become accustomed to being loved.
There are three criteria for judging whether a man is a good man: responsibility, respect, and stability.
Being responsible means that he can be accountable for what he says.
Respect means that he can respect his partner, which is what we usually call a "partnership" between you and him, and you get along equally.
In addition, he needs to be an emotionally stable person. Some people are prone to extreme mood swings, and such people find it difficult to maintain a long-term relationship.
If we raise the bar to the level of a "perfect man," we can summarize the criteria as "three hearts and two minds."
First and foremost, he should be happy. He himself must be a cheerful person, which will make those around him feel happy as well.
The second heart is care. Care means thoughtfulness, which is something all girls can easily understand.
The third key is empathy. What is empathy? It's the ability to put yourself in someone else's shoes. Empathy is the source of respect and the most important ability for couples to resolve conflicts.
The first meaning is sincerity. Sincerity means being genuine, and genuineness is the foundation of responsibility.
The second meaning is goodwill, which means being able to interpret your partner's behavior in a positive way. This is something many people find difficult to do in their relationships. For example, if your partner is accidentally late, interpreting it negatively might lead to blaming them, saying, "You don't care about me!"
Someone bought a stock that keeps losing money, much like facing an irrecoverable marriage; the question of whether to sell is as agonizing as the question of whether to divorce. All the costs incurred in a matter, such as time and money, are called sunk costs in psychology when they cannot be recovered. Why are we unwilling to leave an unhealthy marriage, or unwilling to give up a worthless stock? The reason is that we are unwilling to admit that these sunk costs can never be recovered.
The way to keep love alive: Create a three-by-three preservation plan. Three times a day, three minutes each time.
Plan 3A
First, focus. In our daily lives, I often believe that the best gift we can give others is our time. Put down everything you're doing, turn off your phone, and listen attentively to what the other person is saying.
The second aspect is affection. This involves nonverbal communication, specifically body language. Hug each other often.
The third is appreciation, mutual admiration.
Every mature woman has a very childlike little girl inside her, and every childlike little girl has a childlike question mark inside her: Am I likable? At this time, you need to learn to praise the other person. Of course, praising their appearance and figure is a good choice, or their ability to take care of the family should not be overlooked.
Of course, every mature man has a very childish little boy inside him, and every childish little boy has a ridiculous little question: Have I made others look down on me? No matter how mature a man becomes, this little question remains. Learn to affirm him; nothing is more moving than love. If you feel there are some incomplete parts in your life now, it's very likely that this lesson hasn't been learned yet.
Love actually follows certain patterns. If we follow these psychological and emotional needs, we will have no regrets when we say "I love you" to our loved ones for the last time. The best way to commemorate the departed is to inherit their qualities and continue to live a good life.
