Recently, Mr. Li has been troubled by some issues in his life. In September of this year, his wife gave birth to their first child. He thought that after the birth of the child, he and his wife could finally enjoy their sex life together. However, every time he made a sexual advance, his wife would refuse, which greatly troubled him.
In fact, postpartum sexual dysfunction is a relatively common phenomenon in women, and it can be caused by many factors, such as hormones, psychological factors, infection, and the degree of wound healing. These are all key factors contributing to a lack of libido after childbirth. Let's explain them one by one below.
Why do I lose my sex drive after giving birth?
1. Hormonal factors. After childbirth, a woman's stimulation levels decrease. This decrease in hormones not only leads to a decline in libido but also reduces the sensitivity of areas such as the clitoris and breasts.
2. Psychological and mental factors. Taking care of an infant is a "tough job." Busy taking care of the baby during the day and not getting enough sleep at night, if the woman does not receive care from her husband and mother-in-law at this time, and also has to bear various housework, her psychology and mental state are prone to collapse, and she will experience irritability, sadness and other emotions, and will have no interest in sex.
3. Incomplete wound healing. During childbirth, women's bodies will have tears, episiotomies, and other wounds. These wounds can cause pain and affect libido, so a long recovery period is required.
4. Infection factors. If women do not pay attention to hygiene after childbirth, it is easy for the wound to become infected, which can lead to problems such as vaginitis and pelvic inflammatory disease. Inflammation during sex can cause pain, and if not treated in time, women will gradually develop aversion to sex.
How can a woman regain her sexual desire after giving birth?
1. Help with baby care. Actually, baby care isn't solely a woman's responsibility. Besides breastfeeding, men can also help with tasks like changing diapers, putting the baby to sleep, and washing bottles. Raising a child is a family affair, and only when men help with these tasks can women have more time to rest. When women are well-rested, their physical and mental state improves, and their libido returns.
2. Prioritize the marital relationship. Many couples live with their in-laws. After childbirth, the elders' views on childcare and daily life inevitably differ from those of the younger generation, leading to disagreements or conflicts. In such cases, men should not blindly obey their parents' wishes but should prioritize the marital relationship, maintain a consistent stance, and ensure their wives feel secure, rather than escalating the conflict.
3. Resume sex only after physical recovery. It typically takes 2-5 months for a woman to fully recover after childbirth. If a man forces sex when the woman experiences vaginal dryness or pain, it will only cause her to develop an aversion to intimacy. Therefore, men should learn to be patient and wait until their wives are more energetic before resuming sexual activity. During sex, men should use as much touching, hugging, and kissing as possible to relax the woman's body and arouse her libido.
