1. When shopping, do you notice him or her first?
When men go shopping, they're mostly either ATMs or walking companions. While some are avid shoppers, most are dragged along by women. So, to see if he truly loves you, observe where his eyes wander when you're looking at or trying on clothes. If his eyes are constantly darting towards attractive women and men's brands, he's definitely distracted, and his love for you might not be genuine. However, if he's focused intently on you and offers constructive feedback on your outfits, then without a doubt, he loves you.
2. He unconsciously calls you by your nickname frequently.
Men generally don't show their emotions often because they have much stronger self-control than women. They only reveal their true feelings when their deepest emotions are touched.
If he only calls you by your nickname every day in an ambiguous way after you beg him, then he may not love you. Even if he does, he may feel a lot of pressure. If he always calls you by your nickname unexpectedly when you are not on guard, then he must really love you. Sometimes, he loves you so much that he can't help himself and doesn't care about the occasion.
3. Do you prefer to spend time with me at home or entertain yourself?
If he always makes a habit of spending his free time with you, watching TV, surfing the internet, and chatting, then he must cherish you dearly; if he only cares about surfing the internet alone, eating instant noodles alone, and going out to play mahjong alone, then your love may have begun to shift more towards familial affection, or perhaps your love has faded.
4. When you make a mistake, do they comfort you first or complain about you first?
When you make a mistake, you're at your most wronged and upset. If he knows how to cherish and care for you, he'll hold you in his arms and gently comfort you. When you're as quiet and obedient as a kitten, he'll tell you where you went wrong. If he just complains about you without asking why and interrogates you, then you're definitely not his priority.
5. Does he proactively talk to you about his family and family matters?
Men are naturally competitive, but even the most competitive man will have his most vulnerable side in front of the woman he loves most. If he always avoids talking about his family and family matters in front of you, then he certainly doesn't truly love you, or at least, he doesn't love you deeply enough.
If he tells you about his family and family matters without reservation, and even talks about his pets with great interest, then he already considers you as a member of his future family.
6. Do you make excuses or try to correct your bad habits?
Men often have flaws and shortcomings that women find intolerable, such as smoking. If he can refrain from smoking or smoke less in front of you when you complain or object to his smoking, then you hold a significant place in his heart. However, if he dismisses your concerns and offers a long list of excuses, then he is definitely not the one who loves you the most, because he not only doesn't care about his own health but also doesn't consider you, his intimate partner who is exposed to secondhand smoke.
7. Will they proactively introduce you to their friends?
Someone who loves you will want you to integrate into their circle rather than fear that you will be taken away by someone else. They also hope that you can be recognized and praised by their friends. If they seem passive about all of this and only reluctantly agree to let you attend certain gatherings after you complain, then you don't fill their heart enough, because they can forget about you when they are having fun with others.
While we demand loyalty from our partners, as women, we should also leverage our own unique characteristics and strengths to firmly hold onto their hearts, so that the love grows stronger with time. Try doing the following things to let him feel your love.
1. Listen to him and respect him
Men tend to keep many things to themselves. If you can't get him to comfortably open up, expecting him to show you much attention is nothing short of wishful thinking. Furthermore, if a wife can't listen to her husband properly, who else can he confide in? Similarly, for a creature so concerned with its image, if you're unwilling to even show respect, how can you expect him to give you more love and care?
2. Ignore illusions
Sometimes, what we see isn't necessarily the truth, nor can we rely solely on feelings to imagine. Instead, we must look beyond these phenomena to see the true and unchanging essence. His anger towards you doesn't mean he doesn't love you, and his indifference doesn't mean he doesn't care about you. Perhaps, more often than not, he's expressing his love for you in a special way.
3. Don't try to guess his thoughts.
It's not just women's hearts that are like needles at the bottom of the sea; men's hearts are just as elusive. If you deliberately try to probe and reveal his secrets, you'll only make him resentful and conservative. Your speculations will only provoke his resistance and escape, resulting in more harm than good. It's better to give him freedom; he'll be grateful.
4. Learn to say "I can't".
While it may feel exhilarating to lord it over a man, living behind a mask will only lead to loneliness and suffering. Women don't have to be so strong or decisive; sometimes, experiencing the charm of vulnerability can bring unexpected surprises. Your "inability" will only make him cherish and love you more, not despise you.
5. Say yes to sex in a woman's way.
This isn't promiscuity; it's simply the right and freedom to love. Saying "yes" to him won't change his love for you; on the contrary, it will deepen your relationship. Sometimes, your "yes" can melt away all his emotions in an instant; you just need to enjoy his tenderness.
6. Tell him if you are hurt.
A man who loves you knows that women are made of water. If you are always so strong, so invincible, as if you can't be hurt at all, then his tenderness will be useless, and why would he force it on you? So, when you are hurt, be sure to tell him in time. This gives him a way out and also gives yourself a chance to show your love.
7. Reject the myth of equality
Whether you admit it or not, society is far from achieving absolute gender equality. If you bury yourself in this mythical world, you will lose something in return. If you let go of these mythical thoughts in time, you will gain far more than you lose.
8. How have we become now?
Social progress stems from continuous reflection, and so does the sublimation of emotions. Occasional comparisons and self-examination can offer him friendly hints. Whether out of guilt or a desire to make amends, you'll receive more effective care from him. As long as you maintain the right balance, you'll find happiness in the relationship.
9. Learn to help him handle some affairs like a diplomat.
It's not about giving orders, adding unnecessary details, or making things worse. You need to demonstrate your wisdom and skill in this assistance, handling it with the ease of a seasoned diplomat. Such "revolutionary friendship" will only earn his respect and make him cherish you all the more.
