Every family has its own problems, and among them, the most difficult is the mother-in-law/daughter-in-law relationship. This relationship isn't just a headache for women; men also find it quite distressing. In this relationship, the man plays a decisive role. To ease the burden on men, as a wife, if you do the following, the relationship will naturally improve significantly.
1. Don't be too affectionate with your husband in front of your mother-in-law.
You need to understand that your husband is your mother-in-law's son, someone she raised with her own hands. She gave him to you, but subconsciously she's resentful and unwilling. However, she has no choice; her son will eventually get married, and who would willingly give away the son they raised with such care? Therefore, never be too affectionate with your husband in front of your mother-in-law to avoid triggering her jealousy.
2. Respect elders
Regardless of who she is, she is first and foremost your elder, so you should at least respect her. Respect your in-laws' daily routines, their personal choices, their personal space, and everything that deserves respect. When they see you respect them, they will respect you in return and, in turn, cherish you.
3. Show concern for your mother-in-law
You were strangers before, but now she's the mother of the person you love most. Because of this love, you should treat her well too. When your husband isn't home, do things that a daughter should do. Observe her daily life, understand her preferences, and bring her small gifts occasionally.
4. Be filial to your mother-in-law
Although your mother-in-law didn't raise you, she raised your husband. So, since you love your husband, you should understand his feelings for his mother and respect her along with him. You also have parents; would you be happy if your husband talked back to or ignored them? So, smile at your mother-in-law more often and chat with her more. If you treat his mother well, he will naturally treat your mother well in return.
5. Don't compare your mother-in-law to your own mother.
It's natural for a mother-in-law to treat her daughters and sons better than her daughter-in-law; there's no need to be jealous. It's also understandable for a daughter-in-law to be nice to her mother-in-law's other sisters-in-law, as everyone has people they inexplicably like—it's normal. It's even more understandable if a mother-in-law is nice to her husband's brothers; that's your husband's problem, not yours. Don't compare your mother-in-law to your own mother. A daughter is flesh of her mother's flesh; how could she not have feelings for her? Your mother-in-law is your husband's mother, and since you've only known each other for a short time because of your husband, even if she's your mother-in-law, she's still a "stepmother." The chances of finding a good stepmother are extremely low; don't expect it.
6. No running away from home.
"If you keep protecting her, I'm going back to my parents' house!" "You wouldn't abandon me and the child just for her, would you?" Don't utter such foolish words to a poor man torn between two women. At best, it will make him make the wrong choice, allowing you to leave and ending the conflict. At worst, it might damage your relationship because of your mother-in-law. Remember, no man doesn't love his mother.
