Are those handsome young men making your heart flutter? But good-looking young men aren't necessarily your soulmate. In the initial stages of getting to know each other, why not test the waters with a little flirtation? Let's see how to safely and sweetly flirt with a young man!
What are the characteristics of a young, handsome man?
1. Good skin: This is the most typical feature. Their skin is smooth, delicate, fresh, and fair, even better than that of girls, truly enviable for women! But even if you are envious and jealous, you can't hate the good looks of these young heartthrobs. Their fair and tender skin will only make you drool!
2. Well-developed muscles: If good skin is "freshness," then their well-developed muscles are "flesh." A man's beauty lies in his masculinity, and well-developed muscles are the best expression of this beauty.
3. They can be cute and cool, and their popularity is in no way inferior to that of uncles who have been in the entertainment industry for many years.
In 2014, netizens voted for the "Top Ten Fresh-Faced Male Stars in China." These "fresh-faced male stars" included: Lin Gengxin, Liu Shuailiang, Zhang Han, Jiang Jinfu, Li Yifeng, Chen Xuedong, Ma Tianyu, Chen Xiao, Zhang Rui, and Zhang Ziwen. Looking at this list, you can now understand what constitutes a "fresh-faced male star," both internally and externally.
Shiny young male celebrities, with their natural advantages and hard work, have fulfilled female audiences' fantasies about the looks and personality of a prince charming, ushering in an era of "no meat, no life" on screen. Mature women have fallen for them, even changing their standards for boyfriends.
Precautions during the initial contact phase
You want to date younger men, but you don't want them to overthink things beyond just dating. What should be a light and enjoyable pastime can suddenly turn into a nightmare when they start worrying about your social life and trying to interfere with your every move. Sometimes, you even create the illusion of mutual attraction when you have no intention of doing anything, which is incredibly troublesome.
Because age differences can lead to differences in perspectives and values, we suggest that when initially getting to know a younger man, it's best to remain friends. If things go well, a romantic relationship can develop naturally. If not, having a male friend who radiates positive energy is always a good thing.
So, ladies in your late 20s and early 30s, when you meet a younger man, remember not to get all excited and pounce on him! During the initial contact phase, you absolutely must control yourself!
A few tricks to win over young heartthrobs
In the initial stage, before the two have entered a romantic relationship, we need to explore the factors that can significantly alter the course of a relationship. Understanding information sources that can easily lead people astray can undoubtedly enhance our control over the progress of a relationship. We can then take the initiative, be flexible, and manage the situation ourselves.
Step 1: Be sure to create a comfortable "friendship atmosphere".
The so-called "friends' atmosphere" is the kind of atmosphere you have with your best friends, partners, or buddies. It's a relaxed and enjoyable environment where you can joke around and have fun without any sense of possession or control. It's a state that makes most people feel comfortable.
How can you tell if you have a friendly vibe? For example, can you laugh out loud together? Can you list some superficial shared interests, common jokes, popcorn movies, food and drinks, restaurants, etc.? Do you have one or two mutual friends who can easily change the subject and make jokes with a third party? Avoid talking about values, perceptions, or niche music, as that increases the risk of being loved.
The relaxed and fun atmosphere of a "friends' field" is often more pervasive than other types of magnetic fields. As long as you are prepared, you can be guaranteed to be able to pull back to the "friends' field" and continue a friendly and respectful partnership if any deviation occurs.
Of course, if you want to develop a deeper relationship, it's also important to build and maintain a "comfort zone" where you feel like friends. Having a parallel path of mutual progress, allowing the other path to dart around on that basis, is much more reliable than a brief intersection followed by a complete drift apart.
Step 2: Avoid everyday scenarios
Some typical everyday scenarios, such as having breakfast together, shopping at the supermarket, or going to IKEA, might seem like you just want someone to do manual labor to carry the goods. But when you're picking and choosing in front of the fruit and vegetable shelves or comparing carpets and sheets, it can easily create a fantasy in a guy that "it's so great to have a wife."
Step 3: Don't spend the night together.
The overnight stay scenario is so easy to change things up. Imagine you're falling asleep in each other's arms, you snuggle closer to him, and say "I'm cold" as your head rests on his arm. Early in the morning, still sleepy, you say "I can't get up." The curtains are drawn back, sunlight streams in, and as he gets up, you hold his hand and say, "Don't go." That's how you could straighten a gay man.
Early morning is a time when a person is more vulnerable, sensitive, and easily attacked. Receiving a signal of "being needed" early in the morning makes it easy to succumb to it.
Step 4: Control the aura of "needing to be taken care of" emanating from you.
"Can't carry it," "Can't install it," "My computer's broken," "How do I download it?" These kinds of questions are hard for a clueless straight man to resist. Even the most handsome young man has a weakness for straight men—proving he's capable. Make them feel needed all the time; it'll be hard for them not to fall for you. Roll up your sleeves, get your pants rolled up, and don't let your eyes wander. Straight men can suddenly wake up. Adjust the approach according to your needs.
Step 5: Gentle comfort
If one day he suddenly explodes, becomes hysterical, and exposes all his wounds to you, and you, with maternal instincts, comfort, listen, understand, and confide in him, even letting him cry in your arms, then that's it—you're at least soulmates now.
Step 6: Self-care is essential.
Actually, mature women need to employ some serious tactics to keep younger men! The downside of dating someone younger is that you have to put in a lot of effort to maintain your appearance! The youthful beauty of cute girls is something you never stop pursuing… Whether it's figure or face, you have to do your best to maintain it! You're strict about your appearance, especially preventing your skin from sagging and wrinkling, and you also need to dress appropriately. It's not just about having high standards for yourself, but also about keeping that younger man by your side, haha!
Step 7: Talk about life
The "life mentor" tactic is consistently effective. First, it brings both parties back to a highly rational level of thinking. Second, it instills a sense of authority in the woman, transforming the man's protective instincts into a feeling of respect, completely shifting his "need to be cared for" aura. This is an excellent way to control the overwhelming presence of feminine traits. It can be combined with the "playing the innocent rabbit" method from step 3, used alternately as appropriate.
Young, handsome men are certainly tempting, but it's important that they're a good match. This is when you should make your judgment during the initial stages of getting to know someone. At this point, you're still friends, and if you haven't reached a conclusion, it's best not to give him the impression that you're dating.
Love is based on mutual trust. While ensuring your own sincerity towards him, you also need to observe whether the other person is sincere towards you. When feelings are not deep, both parties may tell some lies, which is understandable; after all, in front of a loved one, everyone wants to hide their flaws and highlight their strengths. However, if after dating for a while, a "younger man" still frequently lies to you, you need to be wary. He has likely lied to you and concealed much more. Such a cunning "younger man" is likely a fake; mature women shouldn't be deceived by his appearance!
