Seven ways to prolong the freshness of your love

1. Just tell me what you want.

This dramatic scene is probably familiar to you. Many women wish their husbands or boyfriends were superhuman, capable of performing romantic gestures without explanation. However, people with such abilities are extremely rare; they can't plant eavesdropping devices in your mind to decipher your thoughts at any time. If they knew you were waiting for them to decipher your thoughts, they would only find it both amusing and frustrating.

In a healthy relationship, this kind of guessing game should be resolutely avoided. The most stable and profound love requires unimpeded communication as its foundation. It's best to directly express what you need, what's troubling you, and what you hope your partner will say or do. Silently sulking will leave your partner feeling confused and frustrated, easily leading to conflict.

2. Harmless quirks can be ignored.

After couples or lovers live together for a long time, their personal habits and quirks will be revealed to each other. No matter how much he makes your heart flutter, living together is just the beginning of testing your patience and tolerance. He might whistle while tying his tie every morning before getting ready for work, or he might always leave his used towels on the floor.

But no matter how strange the little quirk, a wise woman should choose to ignore them all. You'll soon find that turning a blind eye to these little things is definitely more beneficial than harmful to your relationship. Since it's a habit formed over many years, there's absolutely no need to waste time and energy on it and cause a big fuss, losing sight of the bigger picture.

3. Contact at least once a day

Wouldn't you feel incredibly happy if you received a text message from your partner every afternoon? Perhaps you'd see each other that evening, but he would maintain this habit regardless, even if it was just a few words. This text message becomes a bond between you, letting you know that he's thinking of you despite his busy schedule. What could be more touching than that?

This practice is very common among couples in strong relationships; they won't let each other lose contact, not even for a day. In today's fast-paced society with heavy work pressure, it's possible for two people to go several days without seeing each other. Whether it's a phone call, text message, email, or even a small note on the pillow, it's all about expressing: although we can't meet, our hearts are always together.

4. Encouragement and praise are very important.

When a man and woman first fall in love, they naturally praise each other's strengths. As the relationship settles in and the initial passion cools slightly, they do this less often. Even though they may still be very fond of each other, they no longer openly express their praise and encouragement. Without genuine praise and encouragement, the wonderful feelings and gratitude that the initial praise brought to each other are greatly diminished, directly resulting in a weakening of their emotional bond.

Therefore, you must encourage him as much as possible, treat him as someone worthy of praise, and tell him that you are fascinated by a certain characteristic of him, especially aspects that men are proud of but rarely know how others perceive them, such as his good social skills, little-known quirks, or even his fit physique.

5. Happiness can be created by oneself.

Couples who frequently attend various parties and gatherings are often viewed with skepticism. Those who truly have the potential for a lasting relationship are the couples who are content with their own world. They don't need to seek security in social networks; they are perfectly happy in their own world. Truly happy couples cherish every ordinary moment together. They are content simply being together, needing no one else to disturb them, and finding satisfaction without any activities or games.

You might not believe it, but a couple with a good understanding can sit on the sofa for hours, each reading their own book, chatting about their daydreams, or simply sitting together in silence, without needing to create topics or have any background music, because for them, being able to be by each other's side is enough.

7. Always respect each other.

If you want to know whether a couple's relationship is deep or in trouble, just observe their facial expressions and tone of voice during conversations. If either of them frequently rolls their eyes, sneers, or makes sarcastic remarks, it's safe to say their relationship is unlikely to last. If one person always acts superior to the other, it indicates a lack of basic respect, a bad habit that every couple should try to overcome.

While it often takes great effort to refrain from expressing your opinions, a good partner should never show contempt or sarcasm towards their companion. Sometimes your partner may indeed act foolishly, so try to see things from their perspective. If you were rebuked or mocked, you would undoubtedly feel hurt, and this same feeling will be felt by them. Learning to restrain yourself and preserving your partner's self-esteem is crucial for your relationship.

6. Love also needs to be checked for progress.

It's essential for couples to openly discuss their relationship and monitor its progress. This doesn't mean holding weekly meetings to discuss whether recent efforts in the relationship have been made on time or in accordance with expectations; nor does it mean engaging in criticism and self-criticism every time insecurity or friction arises. Regularly reflecting on your actions and inner thoughts can help you identify and resolve minor bumps in the road of your relationship. This is a common practice among many close couples and is worth learning.

In fact, this kind of blissful, soul-to-soul relationship is achievable for all couples. No couple's tacit understanding and deep love are innate. They must have built some kind of bridge between them, reached some kind of consensus, and followed common principles, which gradually leads them towards a beautiful outcome, keeping their love fresh and as intoxicating as it was at the beginning.

The relationship between women and men may seem complex and unpredictable, but the most important thing for a woman is to learn when to play which role and to be able to adapt to the changes in various roles.

Requirements for a man: Someone who can accept you as you are.

Women sometimes try to please men to win their affection, only to complain about not being respected in the end. This is because they didn't respect themselves in the first place. There are two kinds of pleasing: one is charity, an excessive display of pitifulness that essentially contains a sense of superiority and contempt; the other is sacrificing for others or suppressing oneself. This isn't dedication; it actually contains desire—disguising oneself as a sheep to infiltrate the flock, aiming to eat the lamb, only to become angry when one doesn't get any.

For example, you might have a wild personality, but to win him over, you pretend to be a good girl. After you get together, he gives you a hair clip, while you actually wanted him to give you leopard-print lingerie… but the hair clip is what fits his image of a good girl and his preferences. You gained intimacy through pretense, but then feel he doesn't respect the real you. This is clearly because you didn't respect him or yourself from the beginning. Compliance and harmony are different, just as compromise and tolerance are different: tolerance is willingly accepting something after understanding it, while compromise is forcing yourself to accept it.

Therefore, you need to find a man who can accept you as you are; "pretending" won't win you love. Life isn't a series of chapters; it's not like one chapter ends and a new one begins. Sooner or later, you'll have to return to your true self. Are you going to pretend until marriage and children? Family values ​​are no longer like they were in the 1960s and 70s. People believe divorce is an adult matter, and children aren't a bond; a divorce doesn't mean you've lost a father or mother. So, women need to find someone who likes and accepts them as they are, but being true to yourself doesn't mean being a strong woman both outside and at home. Women can have multiple roles—at work, with friends, and with their husbands—and can be different people in different situations.

Attitude towards one's inner self: A mature woman will gradually change

How can a woman reconcile the desire for a man who is both reliable and romantic? This raises two questions:

First, you must learn to control and manage your desires. You can't want to marry a dashing Ximen Qing and then expect him to be loyal to only one person like Wu Dalang. When you choose a man, you can't only choose his strengths and ignore his weaknesses; this is a basic requirement for everyone when accepting another person. You need to understand what your most important value is. You can't satisfy your first priority and then think that the second is the most important.

On the other hand, we need to learn to appreciate different kinds of beauty. Love is romantic and intense at the beginning; after three years of marriage, it's basically impossible to maintain that passion as you gradually enter the mundane routines of daily life; by the seventh year, conflicts are frequent, and you need to learn to understand each other. This process makes you love each other even more; after ten years, looking back on these ten years of mutual support, not everyone is fortunate enough to experience this... The content of different emotional stages is different. You need to learn to improve your aesthetic ability, rather than demanding that the things around you conform to your inherent aesthetic standards.

Regarding the relationship: Pay attention to yourself as well as the other person.

At the beginning, attraction arises from finding the other person interesting. This interest might include feelings of protection or a desire for challenge—it's instinctive. However, being fun doesn't equate to being effective; this is the fundamental difference between love and marriage. Love can be fun, but for marriage to be effective, you need a partner, not just a playmate. This is a mature concept.

If you encountered a case like this, would you find it abrupt? The woman is very childish. For seven years, her husband had treated her very well, but suddenly he firmly filed for divorce, saying, "I gave her seven years, guiding her to mature in a very good environment, but she hasn't changed. She never pays attention to me, only to her own hobbies and fun. Since she doesn't love me, why should we stay together?" The woman was completely shocked by this. She realized that she didn't love him, but rather his conditions, the carefree life and leisure he provided, free from the worries of reality. A crucial aspect of marriage is mutual growth and support. This case tells us that mutual tolerance, meeting our own needs while also considering our partner's, is essential for a lasting partnership.

My requirement for myself: Maintain my independence.

If a woman loves herself, she should never be a housewife. Being a housewife isn't a role, but a profession. She dedicates her energy, emotions, and time to her family like a job, but in China, it's not treated as such. She doesn't receive the same salary, sense of accomplishment, or social recognition as a professional, which inevitably leads to feelings of disappointment. She might feel satisfaction seeing her children grow up healthy and her home clean, but for a mother and wife, doing these things well is expected, and failing to do them is considered a sin. Therefore, if a woman truly loves herself, she shouldn't rely on a man or family to live.

You need to understand men. Deep down, they're childlike, crave excitement and novelty, yet also cherish the past and dislike trouble. That's easy. Just constantly offer something new to satisfy him, like the joy of clearing a level in a video game. When a familiar relationship is refreshed with new excitement, he has no reason to leave. Besides changing your appearance or having new suitors, how else can a woman keep things exciting for him? By being thoughtful. You can be innocent and cute, but that doesn't mean you're an idiot. Being cute isn't the same as being foolish, and being adorable doesn't mean you're empty-headed. When conversation is needed, you're a great confidante; when not, you're a simple and innocent woman.

Regarding conflicts in a relationship: resolving disagreements in the bedroom.

In a relationship, can you truly control a man through sex? Yes, many arguments in the living room stem from disagreements in the bedroom. Men enjoy sex, but they also crave novelty and challenge. If he relies solely on sex, you've lost; but if he relies on the sex you provide, then you've won.

For example, you could dress up as Marilyn Monroe or a porn star. Don't worry too much about it, as long as he's having sex with someone else you're impersonating, not actually with someone else. A man's sexual needs are lifelong; you just need to be different and dynamic, ensuring he gets the novelty and excitement from you. That way, you can maintain the upper hand in the relationship.