Women aren't mind readers; how could they possibly know what men like best or what kind of woman they find most attractive? For example, some women believe that dressing impeccably and looking like they're preparing for a performance every day is what wins men's hearts, while others believe that true love comes from being genuine, not just about appearances, and that being authentic and unpretentious is what attracts true love. Therefore, today I've decided to share the insights of John Smith, a male writer on Thought Catalog, outlining 13 things women need to pay attention to if they want to win a man's heart. Whether you find them suitable or not is up to you to decide.
1. Yes, body shape is important.
Although it's well known that a woman can't maintain a perfect figure forever and will inevitably experience weight gain and other changes, men still hope that you can try your best to maintain a good physique, at least enough to arouse desire when you're naked together. As for what kind of figure men find most attractive, it's not so thin as to be skin and bones, but not so overly fleshy as if you're selling beach balls—that's the ideal.
2. A pure and innocent girl will always attract a man's attention.
Some girls like to dye their hair in various colors, even dyeing it blonde despite being Asian. Others are addicted to piercings, with clumps on their ears, and some even go so far as to have piercings on their noses, tongues, brow bones, nipples, and navels. Those who do this may think it's a trend, but for men, a pure girl with long, flowing black hair and flawless, fair skin is actually the most likely to touch their hearts. Additionally, tattoos should be avoided if possible. If you must get one, make sure it's in a relatively discreet place that can be covered by clothing, and choose a design that reflects good taste. 3. Financial independence is another aspect.
Men don't necessarily care how much money their women earn, but as a woman, it's best to be able to support yourself. Otherwise, over time, men will feel that you're just using him as a meal ticket, and your voice will become increasingly weak. However, if you earn more than a man, try to be discreet, otherwise you'll scare away many men.
4. Be more feminine in front of men.
In private, you can freely express your tomboyish side, doing woodworking, repairing appliances, carrying heavy objects, and single-handedly supporting half or even the entire sky. You can also unleash your homebody/dried-up woman persona, hiding in front of the computer with disheveled hair and unkempt appearance, but when facing men, please present your most feminine side, be gentle and charming, and he will be more likely to fall for you. After all, heterosexual men want to pursue women, not men with feminine characteristics.
5. Skillfully comply
While it may sound a bit patriarchal, this is actually a clever strategy for maintaining a relationship, not about expecting women to be submissive. Don't always go against a man's wishes. Give him a shoulder massage when you have time, watch his favorite shows with him, cook him something delicious, and let him experience the sweetness of success. Your apparent compliance will make him more obedient to you.
6. Sexual life is an important indicator for men.
When it comes to sex, although men may say they don't care, most of them actually hope that you can provide them with a healthy and passionate sexual experience, but without prior sexual experience, preferably a virgin or someone with only a very limited number of intimate partners. In addition, men particularly dislike women who use sex as a means to get what they want.
7. He minds other people's children.
If things truly develop to the point of love, he might not mind if you have someone else's child. However, it is indeed a major obstacle when you first meet or start dating. After all, how many men would readily agree to raise someone else's child before they've fallen so deeply in love that they're determined to marry him? If your child is mixed-race and it's obvious at a glance that he's not your new lover's offspring, the situation is even worse.
8. The way to a man's heart is through his stomach.
I don't know when it started, but girls seem to have stopped cooking. Some even take pride in being waited on hand and foot, even after marriage. After moving out with their husbands, they either eat takeout or processed/frozen foods that can be microwaved or simply stir-fried. So, in this trend, having a woman willing to cook for him, providing a hot and comforting home-cooked meal, is incredibly heartwarming and fulfilling for a man. You don't need to be a superb cook, nor do you have to be a cook every day, but at least cook him a few meals a week.
9. Be a smart woman
In ancient times, it was generally believed that "a woman's virtue lies in her lack of talent," but in this era, men hope that women are intelligent and not just pretty faces. However, this does not mean that you have to show off your extensive knowledge at all times. True intelligence is knowing when to play dumb and when to show your talent.
10. Wearing heavy makeup all the time is inappropriate.
It's understandable to dress up occasionally, and it can even be stunning, but is it necessary to wear heavy makeup every day? Dressing like you're going on stage when hiking or shopping might make men suspect that your true appearance is something you're ashamed of.
11. Getting too close to someone of the opposite sex is not a good thing.
This isn't a sign of insecurity or a crisis of trust; it's simply because men are better at seeing through a man's true intentions than women. Unless the woman isn't particularly well-off, there are almost always men among her close male friends who have ulterior motives. Generally speaking, the first male friend to comfort you after a fight with your boyfriend is usually the first to tell you "you deserve better," and after convincing you that your boyfriend is actually terrible, he'll usually be the first to take advantage of your vulnerability.
12. Don't stare at your phone during a date.
You can be glued to your phone most of the time, but can you please stop staring at the screen during a date? Your date is next to you; he wants to communicate and interact with you, not be ignored. Nobody likes watching you take endless selfies, and nobody wants to see you constantly texting other people on a date.
13. Being like a shrew is unacceptable.
Are there really any men in the world who would like a woman with a foul mouth who always loves to verbally abuse and curse others?
While the above views are somewhat one-sided and do not represent the views of all men, there will always be men around us who love you for who you truly are, regardless of whether you have children or what you look like, as well as female friends who are genuinely kind to you.
Does doing all of the above guarantee a man's loyalty? We don't know. But one thing is certain: men do tend to prefer this type of woman. What do you think?
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