I often doubt my feelings. Is that flutter in my heart just a normal crush, or is it real love? But that bittersweet feeling is so real… Unrequited love is truly a troublesome thing! Especially when you're still unsure of your own feelings. Instead of agonizing over it, why not see if you're experiencing the flutter of love?
1. You've developed a strange new hobby.
When you're infatuated with someone, you'll want to have more opportunities to chat with them and crave for them to know that you share the same hobbies. In short, you'll just want to talk to them! So, when you accidentally discover what their hobbies are, you'll also go crazy pursuing those hobbies, enjoying even the most incomprehensible books and the most unpleasant music.
2. My worldview was suddenly shattered.
As mentioned above, you want to be in sync with them. Since developing a crush on them, things you used to find repulsive suddenly make sense if they happen to like them. For example, you might not like people with single eyelids, but because of them, you now find single eyelids quite sexy!
3. You've become gossipy about his past.
Because you're interested in them, everything about them is valuable. When friends mention them, even if you try to pretend you don't care, you'll unconsciously want to ask more. You might even want to get to know their friends to learn more about their past.
4. You've become a "stalker"!
Besides constantly checking their social media posts, you might even endlessly search for anything related to them, following them on Weibo, Instagram, and all sorts of events they've participated in—leaving no stone unturned. It's incredibly easy to find out about someone these days, and you're unknowingly turning into an adorable "stalker"!
5. Go to great lengths to create "chance encounters"
Seeing your partner holding an empty bottle at a party, ready to throw it away, and immediately chugging down most of your drink before walking out with them, right? Knowing your partner's favorite restaurant for lunch, and then waiting there to snag a table and pretend to bump into them, right? I'm talking about you!
6. You can mention them no matter what you're talking about.
No matter if your friends are arguing about life ideals or whether tofu pudding is better savory or sweet, you always find a way to steer the conversation towards them, or you completely ignore what your friends are saying and try to expand on their topic on your own, only to receive countless surprised or disdainful glances, hahaha.
7. Zero communication = zero mood
If you frequently exchange text messages, you'll start secretly calculating. If you don't communicate with the other person during the day, you'll feel like something is missing, lacking motivation and interest. But you don't want to initiate conversation, fearing you might bother them, so you end up swallowing your words.
8. Pretend not to care
In front of someone you suspect you have a crush on, you'll pretend you don't care much; but the moment they turn and leave, you'll be eager to find them again. Trust yourself; after all, your body tells a story.
9. You've become silly.
You can't stop thinking about them, and a happy smile might pop into your head at any moment. You can't stop smiling when you send them a message; you become nervous whenever something happens to them; even if you have three days' worth of work to finish in three hours, you still can't help but sneak a peek at their social media posts.
10. When you ask yourself, with uncertainty, "Do I like him?"
What's there to be unsure about? If you didn't like him, why would you have such doubts? Would you ask the uncle selling soy milk on the street or the bearded man next door, "Would I like him?"? If you clearly didn't like him, you wouldn't have such doubts. Your doubts and hesitations mean you've already fallen for him!
"I think I might like them..."
Unrequited love is always poetic, though the process is often more nerve-wracking than joyful. Sometimes, however, this feeling is a nostalgic memory of "those years." Everyone has experienced unrequited love; some are simply better at hiding it than others.
The main reasons people hesitate to confess their feelings are fear of rejection and the loss of friendship, and also pride. However, if you love someone, seize the opportunity and take the initiative to pursue love! Making an effort is often more positive than doing nothing and regretting it later; you might even find unexpected love. The above content is exclusively authorized for use and may not be reproduced without the copyright holder's authorization.
