The popular Japanese drama "My Dangerous Wife" has sparked heated discussions among netizens regarding the plot involving couples sleeping in separate rooms. A Japanese housing company conducted a survey and found that 20% of couples in their 30s sleep in separate rooms, nearly 40% of those in their 40s, the same percentage for those in their 50s, and half of those in their 60s sleep in separate rooms.
However, netizens continue to debate whether separate rooms are a good or bad thing. Everyone has their own perspective and stance. This also reflects the significant individual differences in sleeping distance.
Whether a couple sleeps in the same room or separate rooms not only affects their physical distance when falling asleep, but also their psychological distance. This includes both long-term and short-term considerations.
The concept of "long-term" is related to the couple's underlying personalities. If both partners have a strong sense of security and sufficient trust in each other, then whether or not they sleep in separate rooms won't have a significant impact on them. Of course, couples with a strong attachment structure tend to share rooms.
However, if both partners have a cold personality and value psychological space and private corners, then sleeping in separate rooms at night will give them a comfortable sleep, or allow them to do whatever they like before bed without worrying about disturbing each other.
Comparatively, if both spouses are used to relying on each other, especially those who have been afraid of the dark and being alone since childhood, sleeping in separate rooms may lead to insomnia. Such people prefer having someone to talk to before bed and feel secure when they wake up in the middle of the night with their partner by their side; moreover, they don't mind being kicked occasionally while sleeping or inadvertently smelling their partner's bad breath.
A couple's inherent personalities determine whether they will choose to sleep in separate rooms in the long run; in the short term, fluctuations in their relationship can also affect their perception of sleeping distance. Many people have experienced this: if they've had a fight with their partner, they're particularly reluctant to sleep together, and even if they share a bed, they'll turn their backs to each other to feel better; but if they're in a particularly good mood and might have a passionate argument or a sweet conversation until the wee hours, then sleeping separately would be a real downer.
Whether to sleep in separate rooms or in the same room is a decision that couples can make through negotiation. It's worth noting that if a couple frequently disagrees on this issue, with conflicting opinions, or even escalating into heated arguments, it may reflect significant differences in their feelings and expectations of each other. The emotional distance might be such that one person feels like they're "under the same roof," while the other feels like they've become strangers; their relationship might be one of pursuit and one of escape; their marriage may be hiding enormous problems that they haven't yet realized, but which surface under the guise of "sleeping separately or in the same room."
Sleeping distance is itself an indicator of marital status.
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