1. How to handle conflicts between lovers?
To resolve conflicts, address the other person's feelings first, then discuss the issue. First and foremost, you must accept that this person is different from you, and that they have different reasons and perspectives regarding their thoughts, emotions, and feelings. For example, you might find a cup of tea unpleasant, while they might find it pleasant. If you insist on denying their feelings, you are denying them the right to feel, which will inevitably make them unhappy.
How would someone skilled at handling conflict deal with this situation? They would say, "You think it tastes good? I don't know why, but today I just don't think it tastes very good." This shows respect for each other's differences. If you don't like it, you don't have to drink it next time; drink what you like. If he likes it, let him drink it. This way, the two people get along harmoniously because they respect each other.
Second, after arguing, one should reflect on their actions; arguing can actually lead to closer relationships.
If after an argument you feel like he's your biggest enemy, you might not be a good match. But if after the argument you realize that the other person really cares about the matter, and they also feel that it's better to say things out loud so you can understand, then this kind of argument can make you closer and the relationship more stable. You are a good marriage partner.
If one party asks for an apology and you do it, it means you've found a harmonious way to get along. Of course, this doesn't mean that one party has to apologize every time. If it's the same person apologizing 100 times, it only means that the other person lacks the ability to love.
III. Mutual Respect in Marriage
The most important thing in marriage is mutual respect. What exactly does mutual respect mean? It means accepting that another person is different from you, that they can have completely different feelings, even in small things. That's called mutual respect. The moment you think, "How can you think like that?" you're not respecting them. They'll definitely think, "Why can't someone else think it tastes good just because you think it tastes bad?"
