There is a group of girls who are only twenty-three or twenty-four years old. They are good-looking, mature, and financially independent. They occasionally watch movies, cook, and have had one or two relationships. They never thought about houses or cars when they were in college, but not long after graduation, they were urged to "get married or become a leftover woman"!
However, they found that they seemed unable to fall in love, had lost the ability to love, and were single for a long time.
The symptoms of a woman who has been single for a long time are quite obvious. If you see more than three of them, you should pay attention.
Changes in social structure, coupled with evolving gender perspectives, have led to an increasing number of women choosing to remain single.
On a psychological level, women's emotional state can also undergo some unusual changes over time.
①For example, many single women say they want to be in a relationship at any time, but if a man actually gets involved, they will immediately refuse, and no man can truly enter their lives .
② The reason for this situation is that they have been single for too long and are unable to accept members of the opposite sex into their lives. Moreover, in most cases, regardless of the occasion, they maintain a high degree of vigilance towards members of the opposite sex .
This wariness is actually a manifestation of one's own insecurity, expressed indirectly through one's attitude towards the opposite sex. Moreover, this wariness tends to increase with the involvement of the opposite sex. As this wariness intensifies, it can cause further psychological harm.
③Even if you actually meet someone of the opposite sex you like, because you previously adopted a rejection mindset, you now find it difficult to accept them . Even communicating and expressing love becomes very awkward. This is all due to a long-term lack of in-depth interaction with the opposite sex, resulting in a loss of empathy.
④ In addition, many long-term single women also experience other psychological issues such as being unusually sensitive and unable to communicate with men , which will ultimately affect their future romantic relationships.
Especially when faced with a lack of confidence in the future and a sense of uncertainty, many single women choose to become more withdrawn. Only by addressing the root cause of the problem can this situation be completely reversed.
Is it good or bad for a woman to be single for too long?
While one can choose to reject potential partners emotionally, their physical body doesn't lie. Prolonged periods without a partner can lead to various physical symptoms. This emotional void, coupled with a prolonged period of physical emptiness, can pose a threat to physical health over time.
Endocrine disorders:
Due to prolonged periods without sexual activity, single women are prone to endocrine disorders and abnormal hormone secretion, leading to deteriorating skin . Furthermore, abnormal estrogen levels increase the risk of breast cancer , as single women are often unmarried, childless, and have not breastfed, further contributing to a higher incidence of breast cancer.
Gynecological diseases:
If a woman abstains from sexual activity for an extended period, her genitals will not receive adequate stimulation, leading to a decrease in the secretion of mucus for sterilization and further reducing the vagina's self-cleaning function . This decline in self-cleaning function, coupled with the increased accumulation of bacteria and microorganisms in the genital area, can cause gynecological inflammation, and in severe cases, pelvic inflammatory disease and cervicitis .
Irritability and excessive sweating:
Being single for a long time does not necessarily mean the loss of libido. The accumulation of sex hormones in the body can lead to irritability and excessive sweating, which can affect the nervous system.
Menstrual cramps:
Married women generally have regular menstrual cycles, while long-term single women often experience irregular periods and menstrual cramps. This is due to an imbalance in sex hormone secretion.
Feeling depressed:
Women who have not had sex for a long time may experience a sense of depression because their sexual desire cannot be released or vented. In the long run, this can also lead to irritability.
The psychological and physiological effects are persistent, and this negative persistence will continue to fester while a single person is in a single state. For women, the best way to avoid this harm is to date and marry at the appropriate age. Only by accepting love and the opposite sex from a fundamental perspective can these negative effects be prevented.
References:
[1] Long-term single women are prone to anxiety and frigidity. Shijiazhuang New Oriental Psychological Counseling Center, 2012.11.13
[2] How miserable is it to live without sex? BBC, May 23, 2018.
[3] Are women who remain single for a long time more prone to breast cancer? Armed Police Special Medical Center, November 1, 2019.
