Marriage is a decision made by two people to walk hand in hand through life, but as time goes by, reality often differs greatly from expectations. This is when the marriage enters a period of estrangement. Below are eight warning signs of a marital estrangement.
1. No longer holding hands
When a relationship is still fresh and exciting, lovers touch each other frequently. But for most couples, casual displays of affection gradually decrease and eventually disappear. They no longer hold hands, and they don't even bother to say polite words like "thank you."
2. No more sweet talk
It's well known that saying sweet words and compliments to your spouse is one of the essential elements of a harmonious marital relationship. There are many ways to express a meaning; the key lies in the way you express it. If you're "too lazy" to make your partner happy, it indicates that "you're tired of it," or at least you no longer value your loved one's feelings as much.
3. Passionate about social activities
When both partners are busy attending social events to avoid intimate contact, this creates a sense of estrangement, indicating a growing distance between them, both psychologically and physically.
4. Ashamed to display photos of the two of them in a prominent position.
If there are no photos of you two together in the room, or if they are just haphazardly stuffed in some inconspicuous corner, then you need to reflect on why you are ashamed to let others know about your intimate relationship. Is it because you feel you are not a good match, or because you don't want others to know about your marriage? This is a sign of insecurity about your partner.
5. Mocking the past
Some people often say in a self-deprecating tone, "I fell into her/his trap," or "He/she kept pursuing me, so I had no choice but to marry him/her." This is sometimes an expression of dissatisfaction with the marriage.
6. Do you often imagine the day you will leave?
If you often have these thoughts, it indicates extreme dissatisfaction with your life together, and you may even be "unconsciously" preparing yourself psychologically for leaving your partner.
7. Unwilling to go on vacation with their partner
Enjoying the scenery of lakes and mountains with your loved one is a pleasant experience, but if you only want to spend a short time together, it's like being "enthusiastic about social activities," indicating a distance in the relationship and a sign of cracks appearing in the bond.
8. No more arguing
This is the worst sign. Couples who argue all the time are more likely to stay together than couples who bottle up their feelings. Arguing shows that you still have passion and the courage to communicate. Cold silence, on the other hand, is the biggest sign of divorce.
