The film *So Young* introduced audiences to Zhao Wei, who played the mischievous and willful "Little Swallow," showcasing a mature, intellectual, and successful professional woman. I can't help but sigh; the former "little vixen" is now increasingly resembling a "career woman." If "career woman" is synonymous with a well-mannered, high-achieving, and elite woman, then "vixen" represents the family's expectations of a career woman.
I don't know who said this, but I've kept it in mind: "A charming woman is a skeleton when she goes out, and a bewitching enchantress when she comes home."
Be a "little devil" at home
Yesterday, I received a call from a young woman whose career was thriving, who was troubled by pregnancy and childbirth. This is a perfectly normal thing, but in this woman's eyes, it had become a burden. She raised several difficulties that seemed insurmountable to her: First, how could she get her husband to take care of her more and share more housework after becoming pregnant? Second, how could she get her parents to willingly provide more help for her family? Third, because her work was so important, who would care for the child in the future?
I listened carefully to her concerns and said, "How can your life be so meticulously structured with 1, 2, 3?" I told her that childbirth is a very happy thing for a woman, and she should never treat it as a burden, nor is it related to parental care. I told her many happy stories of women during pregnancy. One pregnant woman, with her big belly, went on a picnic with her husband, taking photos and playfully asking him to wash her feet every day because of her large belly. This woman suddenly realized that she was always in a "career woman" state and had forgotten to create an atmosphere of family and affection.
Home is a warm and relaxing haven. Don't be so tense when you get home; let loose and unleash your feminine charm. I joked, "Look at Zhao Wei."
She's a "career woman" when she goes out.
In society, the term "white-collar elite" evokes the image of a powerful, domineering woman. However, in the workplace, many high-achieving women may not necessarily be like that.
I have a friend who is an excellent English teacher at a middle school. All her students say she teaches exceptionally well; she transforms otherwise dry lessons into the most anticipated moments for her students. Once, she was going to read an English text aloud with her students. The day before, while preparing her lesson, she practiced memorizing the text by looking in the mirror. I asked her why she used a mirror, and she told me that when reading aloud with her students, she wanted to pay attention to those who seemed to be doing average academically. She hoped that those who weren't studying hard would see her cheerful expression and beautiful lip movements while reciting the text and be drawn in.
I think this is what people often call charisma. If everyone approached their careers like she did, what couldn't they accomplish? The "career woman" demands a lot from herself—her speech, behavior, interpersonal skills, and personal growth are all meticulously planned and trained, down to every single speech, negotiation, or collaboration. It truly embodies the saying, "Never fight a battle unprepared." Women who aspire to become "career women" should understand this even more.
Adapting to frequent role switching
In fact, "white bone demon" and "demon" can easily transform into each other; the key is to mobilize women's wisdom.
The teacher I mentioned earlier had an average appearance, but she struck me as very lively and humorous. I once had a very private conversation with her. I asked her, "How do you sit when you read at home?" She smiled and happily told me, "Why do I have to sit? I can lie down if I want, sit if I want, or even lean back and put my feet up on the table. Anyway, I'm at home, so I can be more casual and indulgent."
Her family once told me, "At home, she's just a spoiled little girl. I really can't imagine how she could become someone else's teacher." Thinking about how she usually acts coquettishly at home, and how she acts spoiled with her husband at dinner parties, at that moment, the image of a snake appeared in my mind. What a "demon"!
In my opinion, true life begins with being able to take things on before you can let them go. This statement is very philosophical. "Taking things on" requires sufficient knowledge and skills, which cannot be cultivated without long-term refinement; "letting go" is an attitude towards life, enabling you to have a magnanimous heart and sufficient wisdom to cope with various trials. Don't expect time to mold women into "career women" or "femme fatales"; it's never too late to refine yourself, starting at any age. When you can appropriately shed the "career woman" persona and appear as a charming little "femme fatale," it's truly joyful and interesting.
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