People often complain about the "seven-year itch," but it should actually be changed to "seven-year nurturing." When a relationship is "itchy," it needs careful nurturing. Maintaining a positive and necessary sensitivity, patiently caring for it, and proactively preventing problems are always better than trying to fix things.
Do these three things to "nourish" yourself and you won't experience "itching" for seven years!
Emotional cultivation:
Emotions also need to be managed.
A crisis in an old married couple, once it erupts, is like an old house catching fire; it is far more destructive than the friction and arguments of a newlywed couple.
Psychological counselor Fang Xue: Many times, we in marriage are blinded by our own feelings. We think that after loving each other for a long time, everything is taken for granted. We relax with the phrase "old married couple", neglect our partners, lose the ability to manage our emotions, and let them run wild.
Relationships involve both dynamic giving and static enjoyment. Both must be given and enjoyed in equal measure for them to last. If there's a lack of interaction and effort in a relationship, and one merely relies on and indulges in the "old married couple" status, taking the relationship lightly, it will inevitably lead to damage in the marriage.
There's a saying that makes a lot of sense: "What sustains a relationship isn't complete honesty, but rather considering the other person's feelings and holding back a little." People often talk about the "seven-year itch." Actually, it should be changed to "seven-year nurturing." When the itch appears, the relationship needs careful nurturing. Maintaining sensitivity, patiently caring for it, and proactively preventing problems are always better than patching up a broken relationship. A positive attitude is definitely a beneficial factor in marriage.
Cultivating sexual desire:
Sexual interest development is not limited by age.
How many married people in China are in sexless marriages? As people reach middle age, sex often becomes almost optional. To improve your sexual desire, you need to make some changes!
Dr. Chen Jian, a PhD in Human Sexual Philosophy from the United States, explains: Around the age of 35, the physiological functions of various cells and organs in men begin to decline, and various signs of aging appear. Does this mean that men's sexual responsiveness also declines? Actually, no. Dr. Schnarch, a renowned American marriage and sex therapist, believes that increasing age, psychological maturity, and richer sexual experience strengthen the emotional connection in intimate relationships, thus enhancing the ability to develop latent sexual potential. However, generally speaking, while the physical sexual response of both men and women may decline with age, psychologically driven sexual abilities, such as the conscious experience of sexual response, can be continuously developed, strengthened, and enriched. Through continuous practice with one's partner, one can ultimately share an unprecedented "most perfect sex" and "mind-body-spirit integrated sex."
Of course, you can also seek help from professional anti-aging endocrinologists to try personalized hormone balance regulation, slow down the aging process, and thus improve the sensitivity and responsiveness of the body and organs to external sexual stimuli. Ensure good health through a reasonable diet and exercise to prevent "lifestyle diseases" that affect sexual function.
Health and recuperation:
Your health affects your partner!
It is often said that two people who have been together for a long time will start to look alike, and a recent study has shown that couples who have been together for many years do indeed become more and more similar in their physical condition.
Researchers selected 1,568 couples from different parts of the United States, covering a range of occupations, income levels, family relationships, and health conditions. Through comparison, researchers found that the longer couples had been together, the greater the similarity in their physiological functions, particularly in areas such as kidney function, total cholesterol levels, and grip strength.
Another study also showed that long-term couples encounter similar difficulties in daily life, such as grocery shopping, cooking, and taking medication. They found that if one spouse is frequently depressed, the other is also likely to become depressed. The longer the couple spends at home, the worse their physical condition becomes. Conversely, if one spouse is consistently optimistic, the other will also become more optimistic, and their physical condition will improve.
Research on the mutual influence of the health conditions of spouses is still in its early stages. Future studies may use this information to predict disease risk; for example, if one spouse has poor kidney function, the other spouse may also experience the same problem. (Translated by Yang Hongyu from *Men's Health* magazine)
Men's health
You have to raise them yourself.
10 years old: If the foreskin is too long, it should be circumcised.
Phimosis and paraphimosis are the most common conditions in childhood. Children with phimosis are prone to balanitis and balanoposthitis, which can lead to urinary tract infections and even difficulty urinating, thus affecting the function of the urinary system.
20 years old: Don't squander your youthful capital
Young people often have poor lifestyle habits, such as irregular sex life, prolonged sitting, staying up late, and eating spicy food. These habits put a lot of strain on the prostate, and over time, can lead to poor blood circulation and disease.
30 years old: Consult a doctor before blindly taking supplements
Men in their 30s often face significant pressure from various sources, including pressure from elders to have children, which may lead to excessive sexual activity and depletion of sperm and energy. It is advised that men avoid self-medicating and instead seek medical attention to determine the underlying cause before treatment. Wearing tight underwear, maintaining a balanced diet, and avoiding late nights are also recommended to improve sperm quality.
40 years old: Coping with erectile dysfunction
Many men in their forties suffer from erectile dysfunction. To prevent erectile dysfunction, it is recommended to relax during sex and avoid unfavorable times. Dietary recommendations include consuming lamb, quail, and pigeon meat to nourish the kidneys and warm the body. Moderate exercise can also promote androgen secretion.
Age 50: Decreased male hormones
After age 50, male hormone function gradually declines, with reduced testosterone secretion leading to problems such as decreased libido and erectile function, mood changes, fatigue, irritability, and depression. When these symptoms appear, don't hesitate to seek medical attention; timely treatment will help you smoothly navigate menopause. In terms of diet, eat more whole grains and fresh vegetables, and less sugary, salty, and oily foods. Maintain regular exercise, but within your limits.
60 years old: Beware of benign prostatic hyperplasia (BPH)
The most typical symptoms of benign prostatic hyperplasia (BPH) are: frequent urination, urgency, nocturia, dribbling urination, weak urine stream, and difficulty urinating. Severe cases may lead to urinary retention, recurrent infections, hydronephrosis, and kidney failure. It is recommended to seek medical attention promptly if any problems occur.
70 years old: Get a PSA test once a year
Western medicine believes that the onset of prostate cancer is related to factors such as age, genetics, diet, endocrine function, and physical condition. Early detection is key to curing prostate cancer. It is recommended to have a urinary system examination at least once a year.
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