1. Cohabitation without a specified marriage date
Some women in the survey said, "I always felt that the beginning of cohabitation wasn't very smooth." Couples who don't have a clear timeline and goals for cohabitation may not be able to find a suitable time to get married. Therefore, it's better to clarify the "target time for marriage" at the beginning of cohabitation.
2. Has no plans for travel or other entertainment, and has always lived an "ordinary life".
One woman said, "It's like we're an old married couple." Our daily lives are so monotonous, there are no longer any exciting moments. At least we should pay more attention to our anniversaries to have a better chance of getting married.
3. Avoid discussing topics related to the future, such as "family plans".
The survey included women who said, "We can't talk about specific topics like when we want children." Many couples don't discuss plans after marriage, and conversations between them often don't go smoothly. But if you always try to think about it from a different perspective, you'll find the best time to build the family you both dream of.
4. Holding the idea that "as long as I'm happy now, I don't need to get married."
Some women also said, "I couldn't see any intention of getting married from him at all." Indeed, some people simply don't understand the importance of marriage. Even if they realize later that "the other person wants to get married," it's too late. To avoid this situation, how about having a serious discussion with your partner about the future?
5. Feeling insecure about their financial situation after marriage
One woman stated, "My boyfriend changes jobs frequently, and my income isn't high either." Even if two people have love, they can't reach the point of marriage without money. Setting a goal beforehand to "save enough money for the wedding within two years" can be very effective in accumulating income.
6. Feeling annoyed by the other person's family relationships.
One woman said, "My boyfriend seems to be the eldest son in his family, and I don't know much about the customs in the countryside, so I feel very uneasy..." Many people are afraid that after marriage, there will be more relatives and more constraints. That being said, since it's an unfamiliar place and they will be living together for a long time, it's best to make a decisive decision.
7. Neither party has formally met the other's parents.
The woman stated, "We must take marriage seriously." Couples who haven't formally introduced their families are simply spending long periods of aimless cohabitation. Once they finally have time, thoughts like "Why doesn't that guy come over to say hello?" arise, leading them to believe their partner is disrespectful to their family, and gradually they drift away from marriage.
8. Neither of them wants children.
One woman stated, "If neither of you wants children, there's no point in getting married." Many couples believe that since neither wants children, there's no need for citizenship. Many men also believe that women can have children at any age, so there's no rush. However, it's best to consider that the risks of pregnancy and childbirth increase with a woman's age.
9. Feeling troubled by the responsibilities and constraints that come with "family" and "children".
One woman said, "Just the two of us living together is exhausting." Many people struggle to set a wedding date because they want to escape the responsibilities that come with marriage. But being a "wife" and a "mother" also brings wonderful experiences, so there's no need to be overly pessimistic.
To avoid missing the opportunity to get married, it's essential to set a date and goal for cohabitation. Maintaining a positive and optimistic attitude towards married life is also crucial.
