First, she's not pretty and has a bad temper.
Humans are visual creatures; beautiful women and handsome men are always in high demand in the marriage market. Nevertheless, men and women of average appearance will still find their place, though their choices will be relatively limited. The reason an ordinary woman is chosen by a man and becomes his wife is that she must possess other virtues besides her looks. What makes a woman who is not beautiful and has a bad temper think her husband will obey her every word?
Second, she doesn't cook, yet she complains that her husband's cooking is terrible.
Too many men and women today have grown up in sheltered environments, with many women even using their inability to cook as a source of pride, a way to prove they were pampered "princesses" before marriage. In reality, in today's marriages, whether it's a woman or a man who can't cook, it's a sign of laziness or incompetence. As a woman, it's one thing if you can't cook, but why should you complain about your husband's cooking?
Third, she doesn't work, yet she complains that her husband is incompetent.
In today's society, it's clearly outdated for women to be full-time housewives, yet some women still choose this path. Half of these women are full-time housewives because they lack the ability to work. These women should at least be adept at housework. If they don't work and can't even manage housework properly, then what right do they have to complain that their husbands earn too little or are incompetent?
Fourth, she is not filial to her husband and even prevents him from being filial.
I believe many men dislike wives who are sharp-tongued, mean-spirited, and disrespectful to their parents. The reason men don't divorce such women is because they lack the means to do so, not because they can accept such behavior. It's one thing for a man to be disrespectful to his parents, but don't stop your husband from being respectful, and certainly don't verbally abuse him for it. Ask yourself, your in-laws are his own parents; why shouldn't he be respectful, no matter how many flaws they may have?
Fifth, she swore and blamed her husband for being indifferent to her.
Women should be gentle and kind, and avoid swearing at their husbands in public. Remember, while you value your reputation, your husband does too. If you don't give him dignity, he will inevitably lose interest in you over time. When home becomes unwelcoming and he's completely fed up with your attitude, why should he have any desire to come home?
6. She is too selfish, yet blames her husband for being stingy.
Marriage is a two-way street; while your husband tries to comfort you, you should also reciprocate. If a woman develops a habit of only taking and being stingy with giving, her husband will become disheartened. This disheartening disposition will lead him to become increasingly stingy, because he will feel that no matter how much he gives, he will never receive your affirmation. In this situation, what right do you have to blame her for being stingy?
7. Lacking in romance, she criticizes her husband for being extravagant and wasteful.
In life, when faced with investments in children's education, future marriages, and the care of both sets of parents, it's true that living frugally is appropriate. However, what is life? Must we always tighten our belts? Earning money is about taking care of our families while also ensuring we don't neglect ourselves. When your husband creates romantic gestures for important holidays, appreciate his good intentions; why criticize him for being extravagant?
8. She nags incessantly and doesn't allow her husband to talk back.
No one is perfect, so husbands will make mistakes. If he's not someone who repeatedly fails to learn from his mistakes, you should forgive him promptly after offering a reminder, and avoid nagging. Also, don't keep repeating the same thing over and over; stop short of an issue. Excessive nagging will stifle your husband's confidence. A husband and wife are close lovers and comrades-in-arms. When you constantly nag, why shouldn't he talk back? Remember, everyone has a temper.
9. Unfaithful, yet unable to tolerate her husband's infidelity.
The phenomenon of "being unable to tolerate a partner's infidelity despite their own infidelity" is often more pronounced in men, but it's possible that some women also exhibit similar flaws. The uniqueness of love tells us that upholding the integrity of a marriage requires fidelity from both partners. If one party betrays the marriage, why should your partner be expected to remain faithful?
10. She loves to have fun and play around, yet she complains that her husband is never home.
The most direct confusion that marriage brings is the perception that many premarital behaviors will be somewhat restrained after marriage. Consider this: living a lifetime requires bearing certain responsibilities and obligations. Playing around is a way to relax after pressure, and it's acceptable, but it needs to be done in moderation. Therefore, whether man or woman, after marriage, both need to have some self-control to restrain their unrestrained behavior for the sake of the family. Otherwise, while you're having fun, why should you expect your partner to restrain themselves?
