We often see outstanding and beautiful women around us who are still single at marriageable age. What are the reasons for this? Is it that beautiful and independent women often deter men? This article will analyze why "rich, beautiful, and successful" women are more likely to become "leftover women."
In China, there is a group of women who have stable jobs, high incomes (over 20,000 yuan per month in first-tier cities and over 10,000 yuan per month in second- and third-tier cities, and own their own property and cars), good figures, and beautiful looks. These women are known online as "Bai Fumei" (meaning "rich, beautiful, and successful"), and are the objects of pursuit and dream love for many ordinary men. In our minds, these women should have happy marriages and sweet lives. However, the reality is quite surprising: currently, the majority of single women over 30 are "Bai Fumei," making up the vast majority of them.
Firstly, many young women prioritize their careers, neglecting fleeting romances. Most "white, rich, and beautiful" women have stable jobs and, through hard work, become key members of their organizations, indispensable to their careers. However, precisely because these women are career-centric, they often believe they are still young and should focus their energy on work, thinking romance is still a long way off. Although many excellent men pursue them, they reject or delay, citing work as an excuse. As a result, these men only realize they are "leftover women" after getting married and becoming fathers, past the prime age for marriage, and their fleeting romances can only be reminisced about.
Secondly, they are highly educated and always want to find a suitable boyfriend. A common characteristic of wealthy and beautiful women is that they are usually highly educated. This high level of education gives them a general sense of superiority, and they always want to find a boyfriend whose education is higher than their own or at least comparable. Unfortunately, in this vast world, although there are men around them with higher or comparable education, either they are not interested, or they are not interested themselves. Suddenly, they find someone they like, and who also likes them, but then discover that his education is lower than theirs. They feel a sense of loss and ultimately lose this love while hesitating.
Thirdly, their high status brings loneliness. Another common characteristic of wealthy and beautiful women is their high social standing. Whether at work or in society, they occupy a high level, many even being leaders. These individuals typically interact with men of similar status who are only concerned with work and not with their families. Moreover, these men are often married, and high-ranking men are often perceived as having a corrupt lifestyle, which these women look down upon. Therefore, wealthy and beautiful women find it difficult to find romantic partners in their daily lives. Although there are many excellent men among their colleagues, they are often subordinates who look up to them, offering only professional liking and understanding, rarely leading to romantic relationships. Furthermore, they often feel embarrassed to date subordinates. Even if they secretly admire a particular excellent subordinate, they can only dream of him, leaving them with a sense of disappointment in reality. Unconsciously, they waste their years, becoming one of the many outstanding single women.
Fourthly, they are highly independent and always consider their partners based on their own unique perspectives. Another prominent characteristic of wealthy and beautiful women is their strong independence. They have their own stable income, property, and vehicles; they don't need to rely on any man for survival, much less on marriage to change their fate. Therefore, when it comes to love, they always think things through carefully, considering too much, fearing that love might be a scam, or that they might fall into a love trap and get hurt. Xing Xing ultimately missed out on one of these excellent young men because she overthought things, scrutinizing his family background, cultural background, and even the hidden meaning behind every word he said, which ultimately caused her to miss a great opportunity.
Fifth, they are too experienced and picky about love. The fourth characteristic of "rich, beautiful, and successful" women is their rich experience. Due to their high status, they have seen a lot, meaning they are very experienced. In their lives, although they have met countless men, they know where men's weaknesses lie. Those dark sides and unsavory dealings make them feel that men are terrifying, far removed from their ideal of love. Therefore, in their love stories, they always try to avoid these kinds of men. Through careful observation, if they discover that a potential partner has such words or actions, they will choose to back down. Their motto is "better to have none than a bad one." However, the perfect man in their minds is indeed very rare in reality; finding a perfect man is perhaps easier than finding a panda. Therefore, they remain picky and single.
Sixth, some women born into single-parent families have an instinctive resistance to love. Some wealthy and beautiful women grew up in single-parent families, experiencing the pain of their parents' divorce. From a young age, they developed a resistance to marriage, believing that it was impossible for men and women to be together and form a happy family. For this reason, even if there are many excellent men around, and even if she has been attracted to some, the seeds planted in her young heart cry out, causing her to adopt an avoidance attitude towards men she likes, consciously categorizing herself as a "leftover woman."
Seventh, successful men are not necessarily attracted to wealthy and beautiful women. While these women may have stable jobs and incomes, good figures, and beautiful appearances, they are often too independent and hold high social status, with strong opinions. Although such women may be popular with men at work, they are not necessarily attracted to men in their personal lives, especially successful men. These men prefer petite and dependent beauties as wives. Even successful men may feel pressured by wealthy and beautiful women, often lacking confidence in their personal lives. Escaping wealthy and beautiful women is a fundamental thought for successful men.
Therefore, "rich, beautiful, and fair-skinned" women have a wonderful impression in the minds of many "losers" and are the dream lovers of many. However, it is impossible for "rich, beautiful, and fair-skinned" women to fall in love with these "losers," while outstanding and successful men choose to leave these "rich, beautiful, and fair-skinned" women. In this situation of being neither good enough for high standards nor good enough for low standards, these "rich, beautiful, and fair-skinned" women remain single, becoming the main force of "leftover women" and the "synonym" for "leftover women."
