Many women believe that once married, their husbands belong to them exclusively, allowing them to do whatever they want with him and having him under their constant watch. In reality, this often results in resistance from men… Love is about choice, but even more so about careful maintenance. When women yearn for happy love, they need to examine their own behavior. Love can only be given to those who deserve it, not necessarily those who crave it!
1. Tie the man to his waistband.
Marriage between a man and a woman doesn't mean the man wants to lose his freedom. On the contrary, a man wants home to be a haven of rest, a place where he can relax when he's tired. No man wants to live a quiet life at home forever. It's a man's nature to explore the world, to find his sense of manhood in the process of conquering it. Many women interfere excessively in their husbands' activities, making it difficult for them to move forward.
2. Love your man, hate his family.
Although a man walks down the aisle with the blessings of his family, he will never forget the woman who gave him birth and raised him. Many women mistakenly believe that once they marry a man, he belongs to them; this is a grave error. Many women compete for affection with their husbands' mothers and sisters, leading to the age-old mother-in-law/daughter-in-law conflict, causing the man immense suffering.
3. Believing that controlling a man's money allows her to control his heart.
Women seem to be naturally interested in money. It's normal for women to fear their men having affairs, but the idea that controlling a man's finances will control his behavior and thus his behavior is just a pipe dream. It's very easy for a man to hide some money; a woman's attempts to cut back on his spending will only increase his resentment.
4. Spying on men's privacy like a spy.
Everyone has their own privacy, and these secrets are things they don't want anyone to discover. Many women go to great lengths to find out if their men are still in contact with their ex-girlfriends, frequently snooping on their emails, phone calls, and text messages. Sometimes, they relentlessly question even the smallest issue, cornering the man until he gets a clear answer, making him feel like a criminal. This is how some men cheat.
5. Believing that men are like towering trees, and that marrying a man will solve all problems.
Many women today hope to find a good man so they can live a life of ease and comfort. However, for women who cannot be independent, as their youth fades, men's interest and sexual desire will decrease, increasing the likelihood of them losing their affection.
6. Treat men as your own sons
On the scales of love, men and women are equal. However, many women interfere excessively in men's lives, sometimes managing and demanding things of them like sons. This, to some extent, shows contempt for men's humanity.
From another perspective, it's true that the woman has serious psychological issues. Men need care, but they need respect even more; men never forget their dignity. The saying "a man's knees are worth gold" illustrates this point. Women must see their men as men, giving them the respect and dignity they deserve. This is not only a requirement of love but also a fundamental human right.
7. Unable to control her tongue, her husband becomes her outlet for anger.
Three women make a drama, and where there are many women, there is bound to be gossip. This phenomenon illustrates how easily women's mouths can stir up trouble. Women shouldn't take out their frustrations on their men because of emotional fluctuations or a lack of other outlets; this only increases their men's resentment. While men have an obligation to comfort their women, pointless venting is futile. In times of pain, a woman's tears are a thousand times more effective than her words; why not use tears to evoke a man's sympathy?
8. Pressuring her husband a thousand times to see if he loves her.
Women love to hear men say "I love you." However, men don't always express love the way women hope. So some women shower men with affection, hoping they'll say those words; some even force men to say them. Sometimes, men painfully and insincerely say "I love you," while their inner thoughts are saying, "I hate you! You're exhausting me!"
9. Neglecting to protect the secrets of one's figure and excessively exposing one's body.
A woman's body is her greatest asset in attracting men. Many women now go to great lengths to increase the height of their breasts and the depth of their cleavage. However, at home, many women don't pay much attention to their bodies. This is actually a major misconception. Displaying a beautiful figure in public only attracts pointless glances, but at home, it's the body that earns the admiration of her man.
But how many women can do that after marriage? Many women dress like a vegetable vendor on the street at home; how can a man not feel disgusted?
