A woman's value is not determined solely by her appearance, education, and upbringing, nor is it merely about cooking, cleaning, and childbirth. It's about how much charm she possesses in "his" eyes. To keep love fresh and lasting, it's crucial to make him feel comfortable and happy. Only by striving for love and enhancing your own "marriage value" can you become his perfect lover.
First: In the early stages of a relationship, remember the other person's background and details.
In interactions between men and women, introductions are inevitable. At this time, you must be fully focused. A name is a person's most important identifier; you must not forget it. Otherwise, the other person might mistakenly think you are arrogant or inattentive, triggering feelings of inferiority and other negative emotions, thus disrupting the balance of your relationship. Besides the other person's name, you should also remember their phone number, occupation, place of origin, hobbies, and dietary habits. This will lay the foundation for further interaction.
Second: Subtly reveal yourself
Chinese people generally possess a reserved and understated national character. Although contemporary thinking has changed significantly, most men are still easily attracted to women who are reserved and possess inner beauty. Of course, this doesn't mean you should remain silent. Even before he notices you, you should try to appear in his presence more often, naturally and casually showcasing your beauty to catch his eye.
Third: Keep giving him a little surprise.
This kind of surprise comes from small changes in life. Even if you love someone very, very much, you might find it boring when faced with someone who never changes from day to day. Love needs renewal; to keep your relationship vibrant and youthful, you need to constantly change yourself—even if it's just a carefully chosen outfit, a different hairstyle, or a thoughtfully prepared dinner, giving him a feeling of first love every time. Of course, the most important thing is a change in your mental outlook; every new idea or perspective you have will make him feel your richness. How could someone who has new ideas every day possibly get bored?
Fourth: Obedience is not always a virtue.
Men often like women who are completely obedient, as it gives them a sense of accomplishment. However, if you always give in to him, he'll lose interest. Love needs the clash of different minds; it's in the constant little squabbles that love becomes interesting. This is why sometimes, those who are initially at odds with each other can actually live together very well.
5. Make him jealous.
It has been proven that a man's jealousy can be a resource that can be exploited. A woman admired by several men is far more attractive than a melancholy woman. If used properly, the man you're interested in may become interested in you out of jealousy towards other women. However, this method should not be overused. "Playing hard to get" is best used sparingly, otherwise, it will backfire.
Sixth: A woman with maternal instincts gives him a sense of belonging.
Men may appear strong, but they are often vulnerable inside, especially when facing failure. If you silently support him when he needs it, he will easily accept you. Many happy relationships are forged when men experience setbacks, and many broken relationships also begin when men fail.
There are techniques to winning over a man. A smart woman can always wear him down until he has no temper, the highest level being what's known as being henpecked. A man who is strong and assertive in the outside world can be tamed by a gentle woman. You should learn these husband-taming techniques early on! A man's mind isn't hard to understand, but don't be certain he can't live without you. Men can change their minds at any time, but that's okay. A man may belong to someone else, but the woman you marry is truly yours.
We will resolutely refuse to engage in joint operations.
When conflicts arise between men and women, wise women will keep the conflict to a minimum, even if it means suffering losses, without seeking reinforcements. They won't cry to their best friends, go back to their parents' home for help, or complain to the neighbors. Escalating the conflict only complicates things further, sometimes making it impossible to resolve. By doing this, women also preserve the man's so-called "face," maximizing their chances of success in post-conflict negotiations and gaining the most leverage in peacetime negotiations.
Choose tactics that are advantageous to yourself
Winning over a man through brute force is definitely not the way to go. Smart women don't resort to tantrums; it not only damages their image but also fuels the man's fighting spirit. When a man is right, a woman uses affection to win him over. When a woman is right, she knows how to be forgiving while remaining reasonable, accumulating small victories into a major triumph. Through this constant victory, she transforms the man into an obedient commander, who, after conquering the world and reaping the spoils of war, returns home to seek his reward from his woman.
Building an environment for asymmetric warfare
Men are all lazy. If a woman wants to be in charge, she must establish her position in the family. This requires her to make sacrifices, to keep the family in a place where it doesn't feel like a home without her, and to spoil the man so much that he can't survive without her. Yet, the woman who makes such great contributions doesn't say anything, keeping the credit hidden in the man's heart, making the family an environment of asymmetrical warfare. This inevitably puts a lot of pressure on the man. When conflicts arise in family life, he should consider his ability to manage the household and think about the woman's feelings before speaking and acting. This is called winning without fighting.
Formulate war rules that benefit oneself
In a battle between women and men, women often appear to be the weaker party. When setting rules, women tend to elevate men to their advantage, using the rules to their advantage and then using language to subdue them, leaving them with no leverage. This makes the stronger party feel like they are breaking the rules even when they are defending themselves. In this way, the matriarchal system can dominate the world.
Maintain independent self-confidence and status
Don't depend on men, whether financially or emotionally. If a man discovers your dependence on him, he may feel proud and satisfied, but over time he will take you for granted. If you can't love yourself, you can't love others, nor can you expect others to love you. Accept him, and at the same time, accept yourself. Confidence enables you to achieve anything.
Refuse to complain and save positive energy
If he's subjected to excessive demands, he'd rather live on a rooftop than come home. Nagging only encourages a man's bad habits. If you can accept a "real husband" and replace demands with encouragement, he will become the happiest and most loving person in the world. If you truly love your husband, tell him now that you praise him whenever you feel he's good. Women love sweet words, and men need them too. Even if he's not tall, make him feel like he's "as tall as the sky"!
Win him over with a surprise
No man enjoys eating the same old home-cooked meals all year round. You must put some effort into your culinary skills to win his favor. When he realizes he can't have a satisfying dinner without you, he'll be devoted to you for life. So, occasionally surprise him at dinner, cultivate his discerning palate, and he'll love you for everything!
Refresh your profile from time to time
Nothing is more boring than wearing the same clothes, the same bathrobe, year after year. Carefully chosen attire can create a romantic atmosphere, keeping his love for you fresh. Similarly, all husbands want their wives to be curvaceous. If you're overweight, you must take immediate action to eliminate those unwanted fats, otherwise, you might become unattractive altogether.
