In life, "widowed-style marriage" is playing out in millions of families. The so-called "widowed-style marriage" refers to a situation where one spouse treats the family coldly and ignores family obligations. Although the spouse is not officially widowed, the married life is like that of a widow.
My relative, Xiao Li, is a case in point. Xiao Li said that she and her husband have been married for 10 years. Every day, her husband is away on business trips, leaving her alone at home to take care of the children. Her husband is away on business trips for 300 days a year. Even when he comes home, he is either fast asleep or on the phone talking about work. The two seem to have become "strangers"... Her husband's indifference and her wife's humility and weakness have caused Xiao Li great pain, and she doesn't know what to do.
In fact, there are many reasons why a marriage may appear as if the spouse is widowed. Busy work schedules, a dislike of anxiety, a dislike of being constrained, and a habit of detachment and independence are all important factors contributing to such marriages. Ultimately, however, what may cause a marriage to appear as if the spouse is engaging in a long-term pattern of negative communication.
In married life, various trivial matters constantly arise, and minor frictions and arguments between husband and wife are inevitable. Active communication is an important way to resolve marital conflicts. If one spouse consistently uses negative communication methods such as suspicion, criticism, blame, complaints, nagging, threats, and belittling to resolve conflicts, it will only intensify the conflicts and may even cause the other spouse to avoid or distance themselves, gradually leading to a estrangement in the marital relationship.
Therefore, the key to changing a "widowed-style marriage" is to know how to actively communicate with your partner. If you don't know how to do it, you can try the following methods.
