Love comes in a thousand forms, but it can't escape the stage of love transitioning from intensity to tranquility. Perhaps at the beginning, you'll be captivated by every smile and gesture of your partner, and you might even start arguing over the smallest things. But as time goes on, you'll gradually realize that these little things are no longer important.
Although the initial passion may have faded, the love remains, and it's now strengthened by dependence and trust—this is the most perfect state of love. Recently, an author shared nine signs of true love; see if you recognize yourself in any of them!
1. You will also be included when the other party goes on a family trip or has a party.
You were very nervous when you first met the other person's parents, worried that your skirt might be too short, that you might have said something wrong, and that they might like you. But after you got through that phase, you found that they really treated you as part of the family. They would naturally think of you when there were any gatherings, and they would even ask you if you were free to go to your grandmother's 84th birthday party before calling their own son.
2. Even if you separate, you will both be able to manage your own lives.
In the world of true love, both parties must understand how to live independently. He is no longer that little boy who makes you wonder if he's even 20, and she is no longer that little girl who can't make decisions for herself. You each have your own jobs, know how to take care of yourselves and each other, and even if you separate, there's no need for excessive, unnecessary worry.
3. The conversation has shifted from playful banter to discussing everyday matters.
Do you remember when you first got together, and your heart fluttered when you saw his name on the phone? When texting, you wanted to use every cute emoji you could find and kept saying "I love you" to him. Now, when you eat together in person, you talk about the most practical things: family, life, and work. You don't have to worry about saying anything silly, and you can express your opinions naturally, even if you sometimes disagree.
4. You often travel together on holidays.
You've gotten used to spending your holidays together. Besides going out for meals and dates, you're very likely to go hiking, camping, or traveling together to experience things outside of your daily lives.
5. You are familiar with each other's social circles.
Your sisters all know about him and have even eaten with him a few times; you know his social circle inside and out, and you even know more about what each of his friends is doing now than he does.
6. You know each other's phone and computer passwords.
Although it's a small matter, it is indeed one of the symbols of mutual trust between two people. However, such power should not be abused. Even the closest relationships need to respect each other's personal space.
7. You can leave your phone on the table when you leave without worrying about it being seen.
When you first started dating, you didn't know each other very well, and even small things could easily make you suspicious. He might have been harassed by his ex-girlfriend at that time, so to avoid making you overthink, he would take his phone with him even when he went to the bathroom. You might have a close male friend from childhood, and to avoid making your boyfriend jealous, you would try to avoid chatting with him in front of him.
However, as the time spent together increased and the understanding and trust between each other deepened, this problem disappeared. Now you can both leave your phones and computers with each other without any worries.
8. Even if he/she is not there, you can stay where he/she lives.
You've moved past the stage where you'd go to each other's houses late at night and then go out with each other again the next morning even though you're exhausted. Now, even if he's not there, you can freely walk around his house and take his food.
9. Honey, can you help me pop this pimple?
Someone once said, "If you can leave the door open when you poop, not be nervous about farting in front of each other, and even pee in the bathtub when you shower together... well, that must be true love."
Actually, true love is being able to be your most authentic and natural self in front of your partner without worrying about being disliked. These seemingly ordinary but loving little things are the best proof of true love! How many of these have you done?
1. He thinks your lame jokes are really funny.
2. He has already heard (or seen) your most out-of-control and unladylike laughter.
3. He knows what you look like when you first wake up in the morning, and he doesn't care; he even finds it quite cute.
4. When you do something stupid, he won't rush over to check on you; instead, he'll just laugh at you until his teeth fall out. But that's okay, because you can react the same way to him.
5. You know you can scold him, and he won't get angry. Of course, he does get angry sometimes, but that's okay, they make up before they get out of bed.
6. He will encourage you that it's okay not to wear makeup.
7. You can eat and drink to your heart's content in front of him.
8. Every time he comes back, you can't wait to rush up to greet him and then the two of you snuggle on the sofa all night.
9. He understands, likes, and appreciates your quirky wit.
10. You will occasionally do silly things for each other.
11. Not every kiss will conjure up images of butterflies or fireworks in your mind, but kissing him is your favorite thing to do.
12. You finally stop feeling like you need to act cool or funny in front of him, and you can be yourself and feel so comfortable.
13. You know you're not perfect, and you're grateful for his ability to comfort you every time you're angry, overthinking, hungry, or upset.
14. He's already seen your dance moves and still wants to stay with you. Or maybe his dance moves are just as funny as yours.
15. Saying "I love you" is the simplest/surprising/craziest thing you've ever done.
16. He is one of the few people in the world who can make you laugh without you having to make any effort.
17. He has seen you cry horribly countless times…
18. You share a consensus on the future.
Finally, you realize that he is the one you can spend the rest of your life with.
