Couples in love often struggle with the question: When is the best time for a woman to get married? What is the ideal age difference? Recent research suggests that in major and medium-sized cities in my country, it is more suitable for a woman aged 24-25 to marry a man aged 32-35. In other words, it is best for a woman to marry before the age of 25, and ideally, marry a man 5-14 years older than her.
Why do women rush to get married before the age of 25?
There's a saying: "A man is in his prime at 40, but a woman is past her prime at 30." If a woman doesn't get married by 25 (or at the latest 26), it will be harder for her to find a suitable husband later. However, it's different for men. In big cities, more and more men are getting married after 30. There are two main reasons for this:
1. Women age much faster than men.
Women are like the moon, reaching their full moon at 25. Looking at the changes in appearance and physique for both men and women, women generally begin to decline rapidly after 25, showing signs of aging by 30. This is due not only to genetics but also to the fact that women menstruate monthly, resulting in a gradual loss of their body's essential energy over many years.
Women age faster than women, while men age faster than women. Men grow and develop more slowly from childhood, only beginning to age around 30, and at a much slower pace. Twenty years ago, men were "older brothers" and women were "younger sisters"; twenty years later, men will be "older brothers" while women will have aged into "older sisters." Who will look down on whom then?
2. Offspring of young mothers are healthier, while offspring of older fathers are smarter.
We say that men should be at least 10 years older than women, but the ideal age gap is around 15 years. This is because, from a genetic and reproductive perspective, the health of offspring depends primarily on the mother, as the baby grows in the womb, and a younger mother can ensure the offspring's health. However, the intelligence of offspring depends primarily on the father; this is a matter of genetics, and only older fathers have a higher chance of producing intelligent offspring.
A woman's intelligence typically plateaus around age 18, which explains why many older women can appear quite naive. In contrast, a man's intelligence continues to develop, almost endlessly, and he often seems to become more intelligent with age. This intelligence isn't about having a good memory, but rather strong analytical and problem-solving abilities. Modern scientific research also suggests that offspring's intelligence is primarily inherited from the father.
Why are older men becoming increasingly popular?
1. From an economic perspective, mature men are much more capable of supporting their families.
According to popular online statistics, 85% of college couples break up after graduation, and only 15% get married; graduation year is often the year of breakup. In Beijing, this breakup rate is as high as 95%. Why do they break up so soon after graduation? The reason is simple—the harsh pressure of reality.
A 24- or 25-year-old man, fresh out of university, has no money and no house. Whether he'll ever be able to afford a house in his lifetime is uncertain. Finding a job? When will his job become stable? Those are questions that remain. Even if he finds a job immediately, the starting salary will be low, barely enough to support himself, let alone consider marriage. It's also very likely that they live in different cities, making it uncertain when they'll even see each other. If they don't break up, what are they waiting for?
Men in their 30s are significantly more capable of supporting a family. Many are wealthy, own houses and cars, and have at least enough savings to marry a woman—something 24- or 25-year-old men cannot match. Therefore, women aged 23-25 who marry men in their 30s are unlikely to suffer poverty; their lives are easy, and they can quickly settle into a stable, even comfortable, existence. At least one can generally discern a man's appearance (handsome or unattractive), physique (fat or thin), age (young or old), and career success or failure from his current situation.
2. Mature men are more tolerant and love women younger than them.
Men generally have a tendency to pity the weak, so when there's a significant age gap, the woman tends to be more pampered. Older men are more mature and tolerant, and are less likely to engage in heated arguments, leading to more stable marriages.
Young men are the opposite. There's no way around it; everyone is young and hot-blooded, and neither of them will give in or submit to the other. Moreover, both men and women are in the early stages of their careers, busy with work and physically and mentally exhausted, resulting in little time for communication or an unwillingness to communicate, which weakens their relationship over time.
How to win over the mature, older man of your dreams?
Every single woman is a fallen angel; they yearn for love on one hand, yet resist it on the other. Even if they have someone they like, or even if that person confesses their feelings, they hesitate and feel lost, as if suffering from "inability to start a relationship syndrome." Below, we've compiled a complete guide to winning over four types of older men; there's bound to be one that suits you.
1. Men who don't want to be bound by marriage and have no freedom
This type of man likely received a Western education from a young age, admires liberalism, and dislikes being constrained by anything. In their minds, marriage is just a piece of paper; if both parties are truly in love, why care about that contract? Don't think that this type of man is unserious about relationships. On the contrary, he values a relationship very much. It's just that because of his yearning for freedom, he is unwilling to shoulder the responsibilities of marriage too early.
★ Taming Guide
If you want to recruit a man like this, never try to control, restrain, train, or impose rules. A man who yearns for freedom will never be bound by anything. The only effective method is to "let him roam free," giving him absolute trust and freedom, and trying to agree with him on the concept of freedom.
If you can do these things, then he's basically yours for the taking, there's no escaping him! Why do I say that? Because in today's society, women who can completely trust a man are very rare. 99% of women lack a sense of security; as long as their man isn't under their control, they'll have all sorts of suspicions, doubts, and wild thoughts, which is often something 99% of men find extremely annoying.
2. Divorced men
The saying goes, "Once bitten by a snake, twice shy," meaning that most divorced men don't have high expectations for marriage and may even have a fear of it. Moreover, for them, they've already accomplished the most important task of their lives once, so whether or not they do it a second time is irrelevant. Therefore, it's extremely difficult to get a divorced man to choose a new marriage partner.
★ Taming Guide
In their dictionary, the word "marriage" has been covered up by correction fluid. So, how do we remove this dried-out correction fluid? We must start by finding the reasons for his previous failed marriage and develop a corresponding strategy to break down his psychological defenses.
For example, if his previous divorce was due to his ex-wife being too domineering and suffocating him, then you must present him with sufficiently equal terms to rebuild his confidence in life. Or, if his previous divorce was due to incompatible sex lives, then you can only rely on your extensive past experience to cater to his tastes, which is a bit difficult and depends on fate. Everyone's reasons for divorce are different; you'll have to use your exam-taking skills to tackle each possibility one by one.
3. Men with excessively good conditions and overly high standards
Such men generally have a high opinion of themselves, and while they are indeed quite eligible, they also have the right to be picky. Then, as they grow older and gain more experience, they see things more clearly and their ideal marriage becomes increasingly clear. Consequently, their criteria for choosing a partner only become more stringent.
On the surface, it seems they can't find a partner simply because they set too many and too demanding criteria. But in essence, they approach every girl who comes close to their ideal with a trial-and-error attitude, without committing 100%, because they always think, "Maybe there will be someone better in the future, let's see who comes first."
★ Taming Guide
This type of man is actually the easiest to win over. For this "riding a donkey while looking for a horse" mentality, you need to take drastic measures. The most effective way is to first infiltrate his social circle, making sure all his friends know you and your relationship, forcing him to be 100% committed to the relationship. Why? It's not that this type of man is fickle; the real reason is that his friends are too eager to play matchmaker.
Many single women can relate to this: close friends frequently try to set you up with potential partners. And this isn't just a problem for single women; single men are often the primary targets as well. Therefore, the best way to nip this in the bud is to directly infiltrate his social circle and, after declaring your territorial claim, effectively establish your relationship with him.
4. Men who are successful in their careers and work more than 12 hours a day.
There are only 24 hours in a day, and it's quite remarkable to be able to spend half of them on work. Such men are often successful in their careers, but because most of their energy is spent on work, they have neither the time nor the energy to date. As a result, they have a lot of wealth, but no time to find their other half.
★ Taming Guide
Frankly, a workaholic isn't an ideal marriage partner. What's the point of marriage? Isn't it for a stable and happy family? A workaholic can only bring money to the family; he won't give you anything else. Of course, everyone has their own aspirations, and in this economically driven world, many women still value financial stability. If you prefer a workaholic older man, then don't miss out if you meet one.
These successful career men generally take a rational approach, so you need to be qualified to be their woman. You can be innocent but not naive, kind but not a saint, and have your own successful career but not be a superwoman. You need to elevate your image as much as possible, know how to dress well, be understanding, and have good taste. Career-oriented men generally can't resist this type of woman.
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