Perhaps you've had this experience: he always uses cheesy, lame jokes to ask you out, and you always find it hard to speak your mind when you see him so enthusiastic. Or maybe he never cares about his appearance, and even though you've told him many times, he still forgets.
Shelli Stutz, the creator of the foreign TV show "Man Fixer," commented on this phenomenon, saying that before you try to improve a man's shortcomings, remember not to nag or even humiliate him, because it won't help. However, if you encounter such a bad situation again, you can do this:
Bad Habit 1: Gifts that don't touch the heart
In reality, women's thoughts are quite simple. You can tell what kind of gifts they want from what they like: some like handicrafts, some like small designer brands, some are obsessed with practical gifts (such as electronic gadgets, mobile phones, etc.), and some prefer meticulously designed "perfect" gifts. But the reason men give the wrong gifts is basically because they cannot predict what kind of gift you want.
Solution:
If he doesn't know, just tell him! Or indirectly mention that you saw a friend buy a cute plush toy today. You could even tell him what a gift your ex-boyfriend/friend gave you by mistake, and use that as a springboard to let him know what kind of gifts you like.
Bad Habit 2: Spending money recklessly
Many men are concerned about saving face, and they always insist on paying the bill when invited to meals. Or they buy lottery tickets every day, spending more than they earn each month, and they never change their ways.
Solution:
To deal with this kind of person, you need to get them into the habit of keeping accounts. If they find it troublesome to keep accounts in a notebook, then download an electronic software to help them manage their assets. Every item is very detailed, so you can clearly see where your money went this month, what expenses were necessary, and what expenses could be saved. Summarize your spending every month and make a reasonable spending plan.
Bad Habit 3: Always using the same old jokes to ask you out on dates
He initially pursued you, gradually becoming a part of your life. He bought you flowers to confess his feelings and took you to the most popular tourist attractions, eventually winning your heart. After you started dating, you two would go to a nearby restaurant every Friday night, and perhaps on your birthday, he would take you to a more upscale restaurant. What are the consequences of such unchanging romantic gestures? Men often assume this is what you want, unaware of their own mistakes.
Solution:
You need to understand, men are generally clueless. If you don't want your dates to be the same old thing, come up with some creative ideas and subtly hint at them to him. When you see a concert you really want to go to or a place you want to travel to, send him the link. You can also post pictures of date spots you're interested in or like on Weibo or WeChat Moments (you can even go a little overboard and tag him!), that way he'll know what you want!
Bad Habit 4: Neglecting one's appearance
In fact, many men don't care much about their appearance. They don't care whether their shirts or pants match or not, or whether they're very clean. They even think it's okay to go out in old-fashioned cadre shorts.
Solution:
Fortunately, most men are happy with their appearance, and that's enough. Don't frown when he's choosing clothes; instead, try to find something suitable for him and tell him how handsome he looks. Men love to be complimented!
Bad Habit 5: Addiction to Online Games
Many men spend their free time online, whether reading news, browsing forums, or playing games. They'd rather face the computer than be with you. They'll play all night long or stay up all night on weekends. When women break up with them, they often say, "Do you want Dota or me?!"
Solution:
The best way to deal with this kind of man is to organize more intimate dates, go out on weekends, watch movies, chat in coffee shops, or cook dinner together. In short, use every means to cut off his "intimate" relationship with the computer! Alternatively, you can only have one computer at home and occasionally compete with him for it, so that he doesn't hog the computer for long periods of time.
Bad Habit 6: Not doing housework and being sloppy
Many men are chauvinistic and will never touch housework; it's none of their business. That's bad enough, but what's worse is that they not only refuse to do anything, but they also create a mess and litter the house. You're always the one picking up his smelly socks, half-read newspaper, and empty coffee cup, and you've reached your breaking point!
Solution:
First, identify the root of the problem. Is it that he takes this for granted, and you're getting angry about it? Tell him you don't want to be his babysitter for life and that you want him to change his behavior on this issue. This sounds simple, but men often won't change their behavior until you tell them. This makes many women angry and helpless.
You could tell him, "If you could put the clean clothes in the closet and the dirty clothes in the laundry basket, it would reduce my workload a lot." When he actually does it, be sure to emphasize how much it helps you and remember to express your gratitude. Again, men love to be praised!
Bad Habit 7: Even when you're right next to someone, you're still glued to your phone.
The greatest distance in the world isn't the distance between life and death, but rather that I'm right next to you, and you're glued to your phone! Intimate time with your partner and family is becoming increasingly distant on the road to technological advancement...
Solution:
Let him know you don't like seeing him constantly staring at a small screen; tell him you prefer his gaze. If his behavior ignores you, you can roll your eyes and pout. Don't even think about hiding the batteries and charger; scolding him won't work. The best way is to make him feel guilty with a stern, yet endearing, complaint!
Bad Habit 8: Staying out all night
Many men frequently work overtime, have countless social engagements every day, and come home later and later, sometimes not at all, or not until after dawn. Other men don't have many social engagements, and their jobs don't require overtime. However, because the passion between them has faded after a long marriage, they prefer to spend more time outside each day, meeting up with friends for meals and drinks to avoid the awkwardness of staring at each other. If you nag or argue with him, the most likely outcome is that he will choose not to come home anymore.
Solution:
Don't confront this type of man head-on. Use gentleness and tenderness to win him over, and create a romantic atmosphere at home. Don't let him come home to cold walls and a complaining, unappealing wife; anyone would be scared away. The best approach is to transform yourself and your home into a "little fairy" and a "spider's den," so he'll willingly return to family life.
Bad Habit 9: Drinking coffee or smoking when tired
Men often drink coffee and smoke due to excessive work pressure. But women should know that you can't let him go too far, not only for his sake but also for yours.
Solution:
When a man feels tired, as his partner, you need to take action! Give him a massage, heat up a glass of milk, play some relaxing music, chat with him, and appropriately relieve his stress. When he wants a cigarette, go over and kiss him, and casually take the cigarette from his hand. He needs a considerate and gentle girlfriend/wife.
Bad Habit 10: Lying and Boasting
There are only two reasons why a man might deliberately lie to his girlfriend: one, he's a jerk; two, you're not a good girlfriend.
Solution:
If a man wants to tell you the truth, act casually. Remember, never look him in the eye; it will make it seem like you're testing him. This applies to everyone, not just him; it makes people uncomfortable and they won't want to talk anymore.
Secondly, it's important to remain calm and composed. Many women speak directly to their husbands, often assuming that men are easygoing and won't hold grudges. But don't do that; it will only make a small problem seem terrible. Being aggressive will only create an awkward atmosphere. A gradual approach is the best way to bring out the core of the issue.
Finally, you can make good use of the atmosphere after intimacy. This is when a man is most relaxed and open up. With a little guidance, he will immediately speak his mind. With such perfect timing, circumstances, and circumstances, he won't hold a grudge against you!
Bad Habit 11: He doesn't listen to you.
Many women believe that men should naturally know what women want and what they want to hear, but in reality, it's normal for them not to know. In such situations, you still have to express your emotions to him, so your man gradually develops the bad habit of not listening to you. But you should also be understanding, because he may simply not know how to react, so he just pretends not to hear.
Solution:
Please remember, when a man loves you, he's willing to do anything for you. Therefore, be sure of the response you want from him. Speak in ways he can understand; don't always try to make him read your mind.
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