Couples may consider living together once their relationship has progressed to a certain point, but when is the best time to do so? French fashion magazine Marie Claire shares ten signs that a couple is not suited to living together.
1. His departure is a relief for you.
Perhaps spending the weekend together is a great pleasure for you, but when the weekend ends and you part ways, you don't feel reluctant to leave; instead, you feel relieved. You can't wait to remove your makeup, change into your flannel pajamas, prepare some snacks, chat on the phone with your best friend, and then lie on the sofa watching your favorite TV series. This indicates that you are not ready to sacrifice your free time and are not suited to living with your partner.
2. You two like to stick together too much.
You two are like two pieces of chewing gum, inseparable at parties and unable to even be on different teams when playing games with friends. This will only worsen once you live together; you'll have no private space, no hobbies, and no activities of your own. This situation can cause serious problems, so it's advisable to establish yourselves before moving in together.
3. Living together to save money
Undeniably, living with a partner means having someone share the rent, unclog the drains, and do the grocery shopping. But is cohabitation simply about making life easier? Does waking up with your loved one beside you hold no appeal for you? If so, then wait until your relationship has progressed further before considering cohabitation.
4. You like to have the whole bed to yourself.
While sleeping with him is enjoyable, you can stretch out and have the whole bed to yourself when he's away. You can sleep more comfortably when he's not around. Think about these things; if you're not ready to share a room with him, it means you're not yet suited to living together.
5. You cannot accept him changing the room layout.
"This plant should be behind the shelf!" "These books should be placed this way!" After moving in together, your partner might nag about things they don't like about the room's layout. You might get angry because it's your property, your apartment, and you should be the one to choose the furniture and decorating style. Choosing to live together means you have to make concessions, and he also has the right to express his opinions, including the right to refuse to have magenta tiles laid in the bathroom.
6. Disagreements always arise during vacations.
Think back to last year's trip to Italy. You imagined it to be romantic and wonderful, but it turned out to be a nightmare. You dreamed of lying in a comfortable hotel, while he wanted to camp in the wilderness; you loved pizza, but he insisted on pasta; he wanted to visit the Sistine Chapel, while you wanted to go shopping in Milan. This was just a vacation; imagine living with him—your cohabitation wouldn't be peaceful at all.
7. Lack of common topics
When you share weekends or dinner together, you always find yourselves unable to connect. He doesn't like the topics you bring up, and you're not interested in what he says; this can last for hours or even days. In this situation, choosing to live together is tantamount to nipping your love in the bud.
8. You're scared of living together.
You're worried about getting bored with living together, and you're worried about not being able to do the things you enjoy. Living together requires finding a balance; if these thoughts make you want to run away, it means you're not ready to live together yet.
9. Friends who cannot accept each other
Overall, you might find his friends to be alright, but you find it unbearable when they joke around and tease your boyfriend or discuss topics like football and Messi. Frankly, you find them annoying, and you can't stand them lounging on your couch all day drinking and playing video games.
10. Your lifestyles are different.
You're used to going to bed early, but he watches TV until 2 AM; you're already asleep, but he wants to spend some time with you; you like to get up early to go shopping on weekends, but he wants to sleep until noon. These different lifestyles can make living together very painful. So, consider adjusting your lifestyles before moving in together. The above content is exclusively authorized for use and may not be reproduced without the copyright holder's authorization.
