Loving someone requires mutual trust, care, and respect. In the process of loving, one must consider both the other person's and one's own needs. However, "loving too much" can become harmful. It may spoil the other person, leading to ever-increasing demands, or it may make them feel you lack principles, thus diminishing your own charm and hindering the long-term development of the relationship. The British Daily Mail recently summarized several signs of loving too much, which are worth considering for couples in love.
Losing oneself in love. Losing oneself in love, considering only the other person's thoughts, feelings, and actions, thinking only about the other person, and having one's heart constantly revolve around the other person, is actually a sign of not being mentally independent.
Neglecting friends and family. People overwhelmed by love often only think about their partner and seize every opportunity to cling to them, potentially leaving even their best friends and family out in the cold.
Changing oneself according to the other person's wishes. Blindly changing oneself to conform to the other person's standards without considering the question of "who I really am" is another form of "losing oneself".
Falling in love with an imaginary person. Feeling discouraged or frustrated every time you see them is because they aren't as attractive as you imagined. This clearly indicates that you've fallen in love with a fantasy, not the real person.
Feeling unworthy of love. Frequently believing you are unworthy of someone's love is a sign of insecurity, which may stem from low self-esteem caused by a lack of attention received in childhood. In this case, psychological counseling is recommended to gain a more objective understanding of yourself and correct negative mindsets.
You tolerate your partner's bad behavior. Behaviors that were previously intolerable become forgivable, even tolerated repeatedly. For example, your partner might be harsh with you privately or publicly, ignore your needs, or criticize you unjustly, or you might be easily angered. Be alert to these warning signs and establish boundaries and limits in your relationship to develop healthy communication based on mutual respect.
Going to great lengths to please your partner. Constantly trying to please them means giving less and less consideration to your own needs and desires, leading to an increasingly unbalanced relationship. When you feel more tense than relaxed, more preoccupied than at ease, being with them may be a sign that you are not a good match.
Ignore some important signs. If friends point out some negative signs in your relationship, don't ignore them, and don't deliberately avoid their honest advice. Learning to maintain rational thinking when "love" is overflowing will help you find lasting true love. ▲
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