While marital relationships should be intimately close, it's essential to establish healthy boundaries. This fosters mutual respect and appreciation, reducing the risk of serious problems like domestic violence and distrust. So, what are some red lines that couples should avoid crossing in marriage?
1. Don't take things without asking. When it comes to matters involving your partner's privacy or sensitivity, always ask for their consent first. This makes everything much simpler than secretly prying into their private life. Furthermore, if you're doing something that involves your partner's personal interests, it's best to "ask permission" before taking any further steps; otherwise, there could be serious consequences. Imagine your partner suddenly waking up in the middle of the night to find you've secretly looked at their phone—how angry would they be? Looking at your partner's phone without their consent is a huge invasion of privacy in any relationship.
2. Uninvited visits. Giving each other space is a good way to set healthy boundaries. Space means that one person can do what they like without the other's interference. This includes not only physical space but also psychological space. In marriage, emotional space is very important; it helps couples miss each other. If both partners' lives are constantly intertwined, it's very unhealthy and can lead to resentment. Especially, uninvited visits to the other person's workplace can easily cause embarrassment. It's recommended that, regardless of the reason, you should always confirm with your partner before going to their workplace.
3. Lack of respect. It's perfectly normal for couples to have expectations of each other in marriage. However, if your partner fails to meet or satisfy your expectations in certain situations (for example, they prioritize saving money while you prioritize romance), don't get angry easily. Instead, communicate more and express your views on the issue. Of course, couples should have a consensus on some fundamental issues, such as fidelity and honesty.
4. Taking it for granted . After being married for a long time, couples may take each other's care, concern, and thoughtfulness for granted, accepting it without question. This is a huge mistake. No one is obligated to give unconditionally to another. Couples should cherish each other's feelings and practice mutual respect and love. ▲The above content is exclusively authorized for use only and may not be reproduced without the copyright holder's authorization.
