I envy not the immortals, but the loving couple; a happy marriage is the prerequisite for happiness. How can one have a happy and fulfilling married life? Here are six tips to enhance marital happiness and add some variety to your ordinary life.
1. Optimize relationships for 60 seconds every day.
For couples who are overworked and constantly busy, it's helpful to list things that can be done in a minute, such as telling a joke or giving a long kiss. Experts suggest that couples should try to carve out three "one-minute" moments each day, which can not only strengthen their bond but also greatly demonstrate their care for each other.
2. Spending time together several times a month.
Ordinary activities in life, whether shopping together or cooking together, are wonderful ways for happy couples to spend time together. And these activities shouldn't be too frequent; a few times a month is enough.
Third, there are no winners in a fight between husband and wife.
Because of fundamental differences in personality and lifestyle, neither spouse should try to change the other's "bad temper." The idea that every argument must have a winner and an apology is unacceptable. We should try to find ways to remedy the situation rather than getting bogged down in endless arguments.
Fourth, gentle touches and other small gestures are more important than sex.
Psychologists have found that sexually fulfilled couples may not have sex frequently, but they maintain regular physical contact. Small gestures like patting someone on the shoulder or touching their face are far more effective at fostering a relationship than sexual intercourse.
V. Reminiscing about the good times.
A psychological expert interviewed 200 couples in close relationships and found that they had one thing in common: even when they were arguing fiercely, they still looked at the problem from a "historical perspective," reminiscing about the little things their partner had done to show them love in the past. They believed that arguing was an inevitable part of marriage, so they didn't get so "involved" in nitpicking.
VI. A medical examination is required for marriage.
A psychology associate professor explained that the research team designed a marital checkup program to identify and address weaknesses in relationships. The checkup covers all aspects of marriage, even including breakfast habits and whether couples sleep in late on weekends. They also recommend that couples ask themselves three questions annually: Does my partner feel comfortable showing their vulnerable side to me? Does my partner feel valued? Can I get full support from my partner when life is tough? Even if the answer to any one of these questions is no, it indicates some tension in your marriage.
