1. Feigning indifference to lure the prey
Don't be too clingy, nor too indifferent. Stick to it for a while, then let it cool down and relax for a while, alternating between the two.
2. Simulation of ambiguity
Don't directly refuse, nor readily agree. Refuse tactfully (let the man feel a slight rebuff), and agree by delaying (make him realize the value of your hard-won approval only after he puts in effort). In short, don't give a clear answer immediately; let him guess your intentions/thoughts, making it difficult for him to control you. Ideally, you should subtly suggest something to him, adopting a somewhat ambiguous attitude, rather than appearing too easily manipulated.
3. Sometimes tight, sometimes loose
When interacting with someone, don't give them too much leeway or make things too easy. Instead, create tension from time to time, making them nervous or worried for you. For example, tell a guy that someone has been showing interest in you lately, briefly describe the person's advances, and then, after creating tension, casually say that you're not actually interested, thus easing their anxiety.
4. Show weakness and reveal weaknesses to the opponent at appropriate times.
Don't act like you're completely fine. Men have an unconscious urge to protect the weak. Choose an appropriate opportunity to show vulnerability, revealing a weakness to give the other person a chance to show or protect themselves.
5. Calculate carefully
Don't be foolish enough to reveal your entire self to the other person. Learn to hold back, but that doesn't mean you can't let them know your true self. Instead, let them see your true self little by little as the relationship progresses. In other words, take the lead in the direction of the conversation, the progress of the date, and the pace of the relationship, and choose the appropriate time to let the other person see your true self.
The most attractive interaction is one that is both close and distant, yet effortlessly skillful.
In short, in a relationship, you need to strike the right balance between being warm/cold and distant. You can't appear completely indifferent, nor can you be too clingy. A more aloof approach keeps the man guessing and confused, allowing you to navigate the relationship with ease and take the lead in the interactions. Make him find being with you interesting, not boring or troublesome, and want to get to know you better, gradually leading him into the relationship you've planned and guiding him through the process. This is how you capture his heart.
