Making a deep impression on someone at first glance and being able to reasonably conceal one's flaws to "deceive" them is definitely a profound skill.
In reality, making a good first impression is never a chance occurrence, but rather a deliberate act. As a woman, you can absolutely make a man notice you in a crowd, and you might even make him fall in love with you at first sight.
Below are some generally applicable methods that are essential weapons for women to attract men's attention. Of course, no single method works for everyone, and more advanced techniques will depend on the individual.
1. Be prepared at all times and in all matters.
Fishermen mend their nets before fishing; hunters prepare traps before hunting; and if you want to fall in love, you must adopt a romantic demeanor. While you don't need to be overly affected, you should still restrain your behavior in front of men, appearing mature, elegant, and poised. Don't let a man reject you based solely on your attire and mannerisms. How you behave after he falls in love with you is another matter, but you must first make him fall for you.
2. When you go out, you have to dress properly.
Many women like to feel as comfortable as they would at home when going out or working, so they often go out without makeup and wear casual clothes. While some exceptionally beautiful women might be overlooked by men who only consider their looks, this approach will undoubtedly leave a very bad impression on men of average appearance. A little dressing up and grooming not only enhances one's appearance but also reflects a woman's good lifestyle habits.
3. Speak with tact and elegance.
We often see that women who are good at speaking can navigate social situations with ease and confidence among men. Men can only see a woman's outward appearance through her looks and figure, at most noting her attention to appearance and grooming, but unable to gain deeper insights. However, through her words, men can learn about a woman's temperament, refinement, family background, education, and many other aspects. Appearances can be enhanced, but words cannot conceal them. Therefore, superficial men judge by appearances, while mature men listen to what they say.
4. Don't be too "manly" or too "womanly".
Men often dislike two types of women: those who are overly assertive and those who are overly delicate. The former are competitive in both work and life, making men feel pressured to live with them; the latter struggle to live independently and require constant care and attention, making men feel they need to give too much to live with. The physiological differences between men and women mean that women cannot harbor the same ambition to conquer the world as men. Respecting these differences is the most beautiful aspect of human conscience. Women should be women, but they must also maintain a balance and not be overly "womanly."
5. When you're not crying, smile.
70% of Asian men say they prefer women who smile often and have cute little tiger teeth. Of course, Western men certainly don't want women who are always looking gloomy and unhappy. Whether at work, shopping, or commuting, always keep a smile on your face when interacting with others; you never know which man might be drawn to your sweet smile. It's truly baffling how many potential partners women miss out on simply because they don't pay attention to this small detail.
6. When talking to a man, look him in the eyes.
Many women, when conversing with someone, often don't look at the other person; instead, their eyes wander around, probing the surroundings. Sometimes it's out of habit, sometimes it stems from a lack of confidence. But whatever the reason, this gives a man the impression that you're not interested in what he's saying, or simply that you don't take him seriously. Naturally, this will significantly damage your image in a man's eyes.
7. Don't act superior or arrogant.
Women should understand that appearing aloof doesn't necessarily mean they are truly outstanding; a man's opinion of you is already set, and he won't elevate your status because of it. Many men prefer women who can easily mingle with others, as they are easier to communicate with and get along with; while a man might give up on pursuing a woman who is aloof from the start. After all, "Daiyu" types are common, but "Baoyu" types are rare.
